February 4, 2023 - Reading time: 12 minutes
Updated: June 8, 2025

If your Thai girlfriend keeps asking you for money, then this could be a sign that she is not financially independent and needs support from you in order to pay her bills and live day to day, perhaps she simply does not earn enough money. On the other hand, it may be indicative of a romance scam, or that she could be using you for money. 

Of course, for those of us that are not able to read minds, discovering your partner's true intentions can be very difficult. Hiring a private investigator in Thailand is one way to check on your partner's activity/movements in order to confirm their claims and verify whether infidelity is taking place within a relationship - there is nothing worse than being cheated on, and as Thailand's leading detective agency we are often asked to help in such cases.

Does your Thai girlfriend need your money?

Some Thai ladies have careers or businesses and are able to earn large salaries - ladies that fall into this category are not likely to need help from their boyfriends or husbands with paying for day to day expenses. However, if your girlfriend is working a menial or low paid job, then she might find making ends meet more of a challenge. 

In traditional Thai culture, the daughter of the family is typically responsible for supporting her parents into their old age - many Thai people do not have high paying pensions as is common in Western countries.

If the lady already has children from a previous relationship then she will likely need to provide for her kids as well as potentially her parents. Supporting yourself and your family on a low paid or minimum wage job can be a challenge; especially if the lady also has debts or other commitments which she needs to take care of.

Many Thai ladies that are uneducated and have a family to feed will look to Thailand's red light areas for an income... Securing a decent paying job can be very difficult without relevant qualifications, and most businesses require start-up capital. Working "the game" can act as the means to an end for impoverished ladies in some cases, and infidelity involving the sex industry is something that we often observe during surveillance investigations that are conducted by us. If your girlfriend is struggling for money, and happens to live near a red light area, then the risks of infidelity occurring are clear.

Is my Thai girlfriend in debt?

It’s possible that your Thai girlfriend might be in debt - Thailand’s household debt reached around 89% of GDP by late 2024, excluding informal loans, and rises to over 100% when those are included, according to the Bank of Thailand. This means that many Thais, including those in low or middle-income jobs, might carry significant financial burdens that they struggle to repay. Due to the cultural emphasis on “saving face”, she might be reluctant to admit to being in debt, even if she’s repaying credit cards, personal loans, or family obligations.

If you’re worried about this, it’s worth understanding that debts can arise from many factors including supporting parents, children, education, or even starting a business. For more insight into whether you can check her Thai credit score or debt history, see “Can you check credit score or debt in Thailand”, which explains the options available.

Discussing money openly and honestly can help you decide how best to proceed, whether that means supporting her, helping her to budget, or deciding whether her requests are genuine or possibly exploitative.

Supporting a Thai girlfriend long term

If your girlfriend does not make enough money by herself, then perhaps you could support her into further education such as university, which might enable her to earn money money in the future. Otherwise you might be able to provide the capital needed for her to start a business. Before making decisions it would be wise to consider your partner's current incomings/outgoings and perform due diligence in order to make sure that she is trustworthy.

While there are obviously risks associated with choosing to invest in your partner, the adage "Give a man a fish and will be hungry tomorrow; teach him to catch a fish and you will feed him for a lifetime" is relevant here.

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"I have never met my Thai girlfriend in real life"

Sending money to a person that you have not yet met in real life is a different topic altogether.

Due to the prevalence of romance scams we encounter during our day-to-day work, if you have never met your Thai girlfriend in real life then we would not recommend sending money to her. 

If you decide to support a person you have not met in person anyway, then we would recommend running a background check on her beforehand, or at least carrying out some form of investigation in order to confirm that her story is correct and not fabricated. We have observed many cases where romance scammers were able to take advantage of others' good will... Even if the lady is not a scammer, she could be involved in relationships with other men or fabricating major details about her life in order to extract money from you.

"My Thai girlfriend is asking me to buy gold jewellery for her"

Gold is popular in Thailand, and if you spend anytime in the country then you will notice gold stores in most areas; whether you are in a small town or city, a store selling gold jewellery is never far away. In these stores gold can be purchased and sold or even pawned in some cases.

Gold in Thailand is usually 23 karat, which is 96.5% pure gold. Due to its high purity Thai gold has a distinctive yellow colour, which is different to the duller colours often seen in Western jewellery which have lower purities of gold. Due to its high purity, Thai gold is also more soft and malleable.

Gold jewellery is also relatively cheap in Thailand - the amount you will pay for having a piece of gold crafted into a necklace is not a lot more than the value of the metal itself. Gold can therefore be swapped for cash without much loss; if the value of gold goes up then you might gain a small amount (or you might lose money if the value of gold goes down). This is unlike gold jewellery in Western countries where steep fees are usually charged, which are far above the cost of the metal itself.

In traditional culture, buying gold is used by some as a way of saving money and investing it in a tangible asset. Gold jewellery can easily be swapped for cash, and it allows people to show off and display their wealth... Your Thai girlfriend might enjoy walking around with gold necklaces/bracelets/rings, in order to 'gain face' by showing others that she has enough spare cash to buy gold jewellery. 

If you are considering a gift for your Thai girlfriend, then Thai gold jewellery is a good option. After all, if she doesn't like it or would like to spend the money on something else, then the item can easily be sold for cash or traded for another piece. Remember though to purchase only Thai gold jewellery - your Thai girlfriend is not likely to be impressed by a 10 karat chain from the West!

Is my girlfriend using me for money?

One of the reasons that Thai ladies seek relationships with foreigners may be the perception that foreign men have money and will be able to provide them with financial security. If you decide to start a relationship with a lady that is struggling financially, then you will need to help keep her head above water - just as a Thai man would, or any guy in a mutual relationship with her.

The Thai concept of 'saving face' does not always help matters when it comes to extracting information from your partner such as specific details on their finances. What do we mean by this? Well, if the lady owes money and is in significant debt, then she might not be keen to tell you about this, and it's easy to understand why. After all, most guys will not be thrilled to discover that their partner has debts or other financial commitments, and revealing this information could lead to her 'losing face'.

Due to this, understanding the true state of your Thai partner's finances might be easier said than done. In order to understand her financial situation, you could make a start by listing her in-goings and out-goings - how much does she earn and how much does she spend? Does she have any dependants that rely on her, and if so how much does it cost to support them? Is the lady in debt? Does the lady or her family own farmland for example? If so, what are the costs associated with cultivating their land?

If your girlfriend is constantly asking you for money and to make non-essential purchases for her then this might be indicative that you are being taken for a ride. Although, as we mentioned at the start of this article, discovering your partner's true intentions can be very difficult unless you are able to read her mind... Many of our clients would never have discovered that their partner was cheating on them or living a double life had they not taken the step to investigate further.

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January 26, 2023 - Reading time: 13 minutes
Updated: August 20, 2024

Thailand is a safe country to visit and holiday in. Indeed, your risk of being exposed to common crimes such as theft remains lower in Thailand than in many major cities in the USA or Europe.

However, if you intend to spend time consuming alcohol in Thailand's notorious nightlife areas, or in any resort/tourist location anywhere in the world, then you should remain alert and be aware of things to look out for.

1. Be careful with expensive jewellery

While instances are still relatively rare, there are still occasional cases of petty theft such as pickpocketing in nightlife areas. Gold jewellery is virtually the same as currency in Thailand, with gold shops on most streets it is easy to exchange gold for cash, and most locals know the value of it.

In 2022, The Pattaya News reported multiple cases where Indian tourists claim to have had their gold necklaces taken from them whilst in nightlife areas of the town. [Example 1, Example 2.]

If you have expensive jewellery, then perhaps consider leaving it at home, or at least leaving it in your hotel room while you visit nightlife areas.

2. Paying for 'lady drinks'

If you are spending time in any beer bar or go-go bar, then you will likely be approached by a bar girl who will speak to you and eventually ask that you buy her a drink. Bar girls earn a small commission each time someone buys them a drink, which can help to top-up their incomes.

Of course, if you decide to purchase a lady drink then it will be more expensive than your own drink. Lady drinks can typically range anywhere from 150 to 250+ THB each.

If you decide to spend time in a nightclub instead, then you might also find a lady there and decide to buy drinks for her. While most ladies in nightclubs are not employed by the clubs themselves, they can sometimes also earn a commission on drinks which are purchased for them. This can come as a surprise to those that are new to Thailand's nightlife scene.

Many bar girls will try to drink as much as possible in order to earn money. If you offer to purchase a drink for a lady, then she might order herself a shot which takes a couple of seconds to drink - you will then need to buy another beverage for her to consume while sitting with you.

In order to avoid being taken for a ride, always keep an eye on your bill and double check how much you are being charged for. Periodically taking a look at your bill can help to keep tabs on how much you have spent. 

3. Ladyboys in Thai nightlife 

Thailand is of course famous for its ladyboys. Ladyboys are seen as a 'third gender' and largely accepted within Thai society. Some tourists even visit the country specifically to spend time with ladyboys or look for a ladyboy partner.

Many ladyboys have a very feminine appearance and can really make themselves appear like born females... Hormone treatments, and cheap cosmetic procedures can help to complete the look and in many cases you would be hard pressed to differentiate between a lady that was born female and a ladyboy.

If you are not interested in ladyboys then remember to be respectful at all times. You can politely decline ladyboys without insulting them. Due to the Thai culture of 'saving face', many people will not take kindly to being insulted, and ladyboys are no different. If a ladyboy approaches you in any Thai nightlife area, then you can politely decline her by saying "No thanks" - or you could learn the Thai equivalent which is "Mai aw cab". Responding with insults or inappropriate comments is not a wise decision in most cases - remember, it is their country, so try to be respectful at all times.

4. Meeting an 'innocent' girl in the nightlife scene

If you spend time in Thailand's nightlife areas drinking and conversing with ladies (or ladyboys/men, if that's your preference), then you may find a lady that tells you it is her 'first day in the bar' (or first week/month), or that she has 'never been with a customer before'.

Of course, the motivation behind these claims is easy to understand... Many ladies are looking for a serious romantic relationship with a foreigner, and claiming to have only recently started working at a nightlife venue can help to make her seem more innocent and thus more appealing to customers.

As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we are often asked by our clients to help investigate claims such as work history, and we often find the claims to be inaccurate. Our bar girl investigation service often alerts our clients that their girlfriend is being disloyal to them while they are out of the country - the majority of bar girls investigations that we carry out lead to this result.

5. Paying admission fees

Many of the best nightclubs in Thailand offer free admission all night long. Offering free admission can help to attract foreign tourists, it also appeals to 'freelancers' - who are ladies that visit these venues with the goal of finding a customer for the night. Many bar girls or even ladies with ordinary jobs will visit clubs to freelance in the evenings if they have not already found a customer for the night, and many will be reluctant to pay entrance or admission fees.

Of course, even clubs that are free to enter will usually have VIP areas, which may have separate entrance fees and even separate dress codes in some cases.

If you don't mind the fee and it is not too high, then there is obviously no problem with paying to enter a specific venue - just be aware that there are usually free alternatives nearby. Once paid, admission fees are of course non-refundable; so consider whether it is worthwhile paying to enter a specific venue.

6. Falling in love

It goes without saying that falling in love or forming a serious relationship with someone that you met in a red light area is not usually a wise endeavour in any country in the world, and this advice is no less true for Thailand.

While some foreigners do meet their wives or long term partners in nightlife areas and go on to enjoy happy relationships; for every success story you will find many more 'horror stories' where guys have found themselves being taken for a ride.

Whether you meet a lady in a beer bar, go-go bar, club, disco, karaoke bar, massage parlour, or even a lady working an 'ordinary job' that happens to be within reach of a nightlife area, relationships can quickly develop into something more serious; and it's easy to understand why... You are in a beautiful tropical country, with a beautiful lady that seems like she is head over heels in love with you.

The typical 'bar girl scam' will involve a lady spending time with a guy during his vacation. However, with the prevalence of online dating websites/apps, we have seen more and more guys unwittingly involve themselves with ladies of the night through the internet.

Although often described as a 'bar girl scam', the typical romance scam can involve ladies from all different occupations, and if you meet a 'working' lady using a dating site then she probably will not be upfront and honest with you about her true line of work.

The 'bar girl scam' usually runs somewhere along the following lines: 

You meet a lady (in real life or in person) that claims she is head over heels in love with you... You've read the 'horror stories' online but this lady seems different. You form a strong bond and relationship with her, she is 'special' and not like other women.

For an attractive lady that regularly meets with foreign men (through either working in a nightlife area and/or internet dating), the opportunity for her to repeat the above process with many guys is often a lucrative endeavour.

Some ladies are able to find themselves multiple different boyfriends, all of whom will believe they are the only man in her life. Some will visit Thailand occasionally and buy her gifts, some will send money from overseas - maybe one or two boyfriends will even send the lady a monthly allowance. Whichever way you look at it, having several boyfriends can be very profitable.

As leading private investigators in Thailand, we can help to investigate cheating partners and discover whether your girlfriend or spouse is being faithful while you are out of the country. We offer free, no pressure quotations for all work. Visit the Bangkok Private Investigators homepage to learn more about us or request a quote.

7. Renting a motorbike in Thailand

Renting a motorbike or scooter during your trip to Thailand is statistically one of the most dangerous activities that you may choose to partake in. This is especially true if you are not proficient on two wheels or are new to the country and yet to fully understand traffic rules and etiquette.

Taxis are cheap and available in all nightlife areas. Ride hailing apps such as 'Grab' or 'bolt' can be used to order an inexpensive ride directly from your smartphone easily and cheaply. We would recommend making use of these services and staying off two wheels.

If you decide to rent a motorbike/scooter anyway, then make sure you bring an International Driving Permit (IDP) which is complete with a motorcycle endorsement. If you do not have a motorbike license in your home country, then your IDP will not allow you to drive a scooter in another country such as Thailand.

"In my country I can ride a 50cc scooter using just my car license - so I can ride a scooter in Thailand too" - This is not true. Unless you have a motorbike license in your home country your International Driving Permit will only allow you to drive cars. Whether or not your home country allows you to ride a low-powered scooter using a car license is irrelevant.

As well as making sure that you have a valid driving permit or license, it would be prudent to check that your travel insurance policy will cover you for any accidents on the road. While Thailand is a cheap and cheerful place for the most part, if you fall off a motorbike and become seriously injured then you might find yourself racking up millions of baht in medical expenses very quickly.

8. Use protection

If you find yourself spending intimate time with anyone in Thailand, then use a condom. Remember, it is possible to carry and transmit a serious STD without knowing that you are infected - so don't take the risk.

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January 21, 2023 - Reading time: 8 minutes
Updated: May 29, 2025

'Due diligence' is a term usually associated with business deals and high-value transactions. Naturally, a smart investor wouldn’t part with their money or enter into a binding agreement without first verifying the facts. The same mindset should be applied to something equally serious — marriage.

Marriage brings significant emotional and financial responsibilities. While it's not technically a business deal, it can involve your life savings, property, vehicles, and long-term financial commitments — particularly if you're marrying someone from a different culture with unfamiliar legal and social expectations.

Marrying a Thai woman often involves a significant gift or 'dowry' to her parents, typically money, gold, and sometimes property or vehicles. Known as a ‘sin sod’, this traditional payment is usually displayed during the ceremony for guests to see.

Whether your Thai wedding includes a dowry or not, it’s wise to protect yourself by verifying your partner’s background before making such a life-altering commitment. Conducting due diligence before marriage in Thailand is not only smart — it could save you from financial loss or emotional distress down the line.

Thai girlfriend background checks

Background checks are essential if you're planning to marry a Thai lady or take the relationship to the next level. These checks can uncover crucial facts about your partner that might otherwise remain hidden.

As a trusted detective agency in Thailand, we’ve helped hundreds of clients uncover the truth about their Thai fiancées or girlfriends. In many cases, background checks revealed serious lies or omissions that would have been devastating to discover later.

Common issues include women lying about their age — sometimes reducing it by five or ten years. In rarer cases, we’ve uncovered individuals who were born male but had transitioned to female, without disclosing this to their partner. Many Thai ladyboys are extremely convincing, and gender reassignment surgery can further obscure the truth. Think it can’t happen to you? Think again.

Background checks can include verification of marriage and divorce records, employment history, criminal background, financial status, family ties, social media activity and more. Our Thai partner background screening services are designed to give you peace of mind before making major life decisions.

Criminal record checks are particularly important. If your partner has a past involving fraud, theft, or solicitation, this can not only raise red flags about trustworthiness but may also affect visa applications to Western countries.

Visit our background check page for more details, or contact us for a free, confidential quote.

Thai prenuptial agreements

Depending on your financial situation, it may make sense to draw up a prenuptial agreement before the marriage takes place. These agreements outline how assets and property will be divided in the event of a divorce — a useful tool for protecting your interests.

Under Thai law, your spouse may be entitled to claim 50% of any assets acquired during the marriage. If you have assets in your home country, the division of those can become even more complex.

Whether a prenup is right for you depends on your personal situation — including the value and location of your assets. We recommend consulting a qualified solicitor who understands both Thai and international family law.

The dowry tradition in Thailand ('sin sod')

Dowry payments — or ‘sin sod’ — are a long-standing Thai wedding tradition. The groom typically gives a large gift to his bride’s family, which can range from 300,000 to over 1,000,000 THB. Gold, property, and vehicles may also be included.

While the dowry tradition has faded in the West, it remains common in Thailand. That said, some families may agree to a ‘fake dowry’ where the money is returned to the groom after the ceremony — allowing them to save face in front of guests without accepting the payment.

Families in rural farming areas may expect genuine support. In these cases, a practical dowry — such as a tractor or farming equipment — might be seen as a valuable investment in their long-term livelihood. Understanding these expectations before marriage is key to avoiding future conflicts.

Also consider that in traditional Thai culture, daughters are often expected to care for their parents in old age. As her husband, you may inherit some of this responsibility. Financial planning for your Thai marriage should account for both short-term and long-term commitments to her and possibly her family.

Doubts before marrying a Thai lady?

It's completely normal to have second thoughts or concerns before entering into a marriage — especially if you're marrying someone from a different country and culture. If you’ve noticed things that don’t quite add up, or you’re unsure whether your Thai partner is being completely honest with you, then it’s worth taking a step back.

Many of our clients come to us with similar worries: “Is she really single?”, “Has she told me the truth about her past?”, “Is she just using me for money?”, or even “How do I know if she’s genuine?”.

Our background check service for Thai girlfriends is specifically designed to help you find clarity before making a long-term commitment. We can discreetly verify her relationship history, marriage or divorce status, criminal record, employment, and more — so you can make your decision with confidence.

Don’t ignore your gut feeling. If something seems off, it’s better to get the facts now — before tying the knot.

About Bangkok Private Investigators

We are a leading private investigation agency based in Bangkok, serving clients across all regions of Thailand. If you’re unsure about your Thai partner or need to verify key facts, we can help uncover the truth discreetly and efficiently.

All communication with us is 100% confidential. We offer free quotes and fast responses. Visit our homepage to learn more or get in touch today.

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July 22, 2022 - Reading time: 15 minutes
Updated: June 22, 2025

Dating a Thai bar girl is an experience that many foreigners encounter when visiting Thailand’s nightlife hotspots, such as Bangkok, Pattaya, and Phuket. While some relationships evolve into genuine romantic partnerships, others are purely transactional or come with complications that many fail to anticipate. Understanding the nuances of these relationships—both the positive aspects and the challenges—is essential before getting involved. However, if you are in a relationship with a Thai bar girl and suspect that things might not be as they seem, it’s important to approach the situation with caution and awareness. At Bangkok Investigators, we offer various services that can help you uncover the truth about your partner's loyalty and background.

The Appeal of Thai Bar Girls

Thailand is famous for its vibrant nightlife, and many foreigners come here looking for excitement and companionship. Thai bar girls are often seen as friendly, approachable, and open to the idea of meeting foreigners. They work in beer bars, go-go bars, and nightclubs, where their job is to engage with customers, offering conversation, drinks, and often more intimate interactions. Many foreign men find these women attractive, and some may feel a genuine emotional connection.

The attraction to Thai bar girls can be rooted in a variety of factors. For some men, it’s the allure of a foreign culture, the excitement of new experiences, or the desire to engage with someone who seems more approachable than what they’re used to back home. For others, it may be a way to seek companionship or love in a place where they feel disconnected from their usual social circles.

The Challenges of Dating a Thai Bar Girl

While it might seem like an ideal situation to many, there are significant challenges involved in dating a Thai bar girl. It's important to consider the cultural differences and the nature of her job. Often, these women are working in a transactional environment, which can create a blurred line between genuine affection and the expectations that come with the profession.

Bar girls typically have dependants—their parents, and perhaps one or two children from a previous relationship. Child support is rare once a couple have separated, and many women find themselves in a situation where they are trying to earn as much cash as possible in order to support their families. For some, working in a bar and developing relationships with foreign men is seen as a path to potential riches.

One of the main challenges is that many Thai bar girls may be interested in a relationship for the financial benefits it brings. This isn’t always the case, but it’s important to understand that in some cases, these women may be seeking financial support more than a genuine emotional connection. Foreign men who fall in love too quickly may end up hurt when the relationship turns out to be more about money than affection.

Additionally, many Thai bar girls may have multiple boyfriends or “sugar daddies,” or they may have other men who offer them financial support, even if they are romantically involved with someone else. Their phones are typically filled with contacts for foreign men that they've previously met while drinking in the bar, and those men will also have the lady's phone number and be able to send her a message or call at any time.

The Influence of Cultural Expectations

Thai culture has its own unique set of social norms, and these may differ significantly from those of a foreigner. In Thai society, relationships and family are incredibly important, but the way these are navigated can vary from person to person. For many Thai bar girls, their family may depend on the financial support they send back home. They may feel pressure to maintain a certain lifestyle and to support their loved ones, which could be a major motivation for their work in the bars.

In terms of romance, Thai women are often raised with traditional views on gender roles, and men may expect them to be submissive or to take on more traditional roles in a relationship. Foreign men who are used to more egalitarian partnerships may struggle to adjust to these differences, which can lead to misunderstandings and frustration.

Furthermore, in order to maintain a successful relationship with a Thai bar girl, you’ll need to start supporting her financially as soon as possible, in order for her to escape the bar and earn a living in a more respectable environment.

For many Thai women, a relationship is not truly serious until a marriage has taken place. You may feel that your relationship with a Thai lady is a serious one, and she might mirror those beliefs. But the fact is, most bar girls will struggle to take a relationship seriously if her boyfriend is not supporting her financially and allows her to continue working in a bar.

Of course, providing financial support is not always a guarantee that the lady will remain loyal to you. As we have seen in previous cases, some women enjoy the thrill of drinking with their friends and going off back to their customer's hotel rooms, even if their boyfriend or husband has given them considerable sums of money. In one case, our client supported the lady for over two years, and even built her a small house back in her village. Once the house was complete, she was simply bored of village life, and returned to working in a bar.

The Emotional Risks

There is an emotional risk when dating a Thai bar girl, especially for foreigners who are emotionally invested in the relationship. While some Thai bar girls may genuinely care for their foreign partners, it’s important to be realistic about the likelihood of the relationship being long-lasting. These women often face pressures from their families, peers, and the expectations of their jobs, which may complicate their ability to form lasting romantic connections.

Moreover, many foreigners may believe that their relationship is unique or special, only to realise later that they are just one of many men providing financial support. This can lead to feelings of betrayal and emotional distress when the relationship inevitably hits a rough patch or comes to an end.

All guys believe that “she is different” and “maybe she really won’t accept bar fines from other men”, however, the reality of the situation is that most bar girls are trying to earn as much money as possible for their families. As the old adage goes, they “can’t eat love”.

The Financial Dynamics

Finances are a huge part of the dating dynamic when it comes to Thai bar girls. The idea of “paying for companionship” is not necessarily viewed in the same way in Thailand as it might be in the West. While some men may willingly provide financial support as part of a romantic relationship, it’s important to understand the nature of these transactions. Some Thai women may view a foreigner’s money as a primary motivation for staying in the relationship, and the expectations for financial support can create imbalances in the relationship.

For many Thai bar girls, sending money back to their families is a significant part of their financial obligations. Foreigners may find themselves being asked for money regularly, whether for rent, food, or family emergencies. It’s crucial to assess whether you are comfortable with this dynamic before getting involved in a deeper relationship.

Additionally, many bar girls will owe money—whether they’ve borrowed cash from loan sharks, or taken out loans out from the bank against land or property which is owned by their family in the village... If you think that a bar girl is in love with you, and that she will be fully honest with you about all of the money that she owes, then think again.

Bar girls are not stupid. Most understand that being honest about having mountains of debt will not please their new farang boyfriend. Indeed, if she is truly in love with you, then she might be more inclined to lie about her true financial situation. This again relates to the Thai concept of “saving face.”

Instead of explaining that she owes money to the bank, the lady might instead claim that one of her family members is sick in hospital, or that she needs money to care for a sick buffalo. We have seen this type of tactic used over and over again. We also see a surprising number of cases where a lady will claim to be in prison or jail and need money for fines or to post bail.

How to Navigate the Relationship

If you do decide to pursue a relationship with a Thai bar girl, there are several things to consider. First and foremost, ensure that you have clear communication about expectations. Discuss the nature of your relationship, whether it’s transactional or romantic, and what both of you expect from it. Understanding each other’s perspectives and motivations can help avoid confusion and disappointment down the road.

It’s also important to maintain realistic expectations. While it’s possible to form a meaningful relationship with a Thai bar girl, it’s equally likely that the relationship will be more about companionship or a temporary connection. Be prepared for the possibility that the relationship may not last, and that your partner’s priorities may shift as circumstances change.

If your girlfriend works in a Thai bar and claims that she doesn’t leave with customers, then beware that in the majority of cases handled by us, this claim is found to be a lie. Most bar girls would jump at the chance to earn some cash by spending time with a clean, well dressed foreigner—this is a fact demonstrated by us statistically.

Private Investigation Services: Getting to the Truth

If you're dating a Thai bar girl and want to know more about her true intentions or background, we offer a range of investigative services that can help you make an informed decision. At Bangkok Investigators, we specialise in:

• Background Checks – We can investigate your partner’s history to see if she has been involved in past relationships with other foreigners. We can check her employment history, and perform OSINT checks to confirm whether she features in adult videos, which is common for former bar girls.
• Decoy and Honey Trap Services – Our team of bar girl investigators can send a decoy to approach your partner to assess her loyalty and whether she is still leaving the bar with customers. We can find out if she still gives her phone number out to customers in the bar, or whether she claims to have a boyfriend.
• Surveillance Services – We can monitor her movements, track her behaviour, and gather evidence to see how many customers she interacts with at night and her general lifestyle. Does she leave with customers? How many customers does she average per week? Discreet surveillance would be required in order to answer these type of questions.

Learn more about bar girl investigations.

These services can provide you with the peace of mind and clarity you need, ensuring that you’re not being misled or taken advantage of in a relationship. Please note that our fees typically depend on the location of the case, so please specify where exactly the lady works when reaching out to us for a free quote.

Making Informed Decisions

In conclusion, dating a Thai bar girl can be a rewarding and exciting experience, but it comes with its own set of challenges. By understanding the cultural differences, the potential for financial expectations, and the emotional risks involved, you can make more informed decisions about whether pursuing such a relationship is right for you.

It’s essential to approach the relationship with respect, openness, and clear communication. Don’t forget to manage your own expectations and be realistic about the nature of the relationship. Whether you’re looking for a fun, short-term connection or a more serious, long-term commitment, being aware of the complexities can help ensure that the experience is more positive and fulfilling.

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