Data which has been published by the Federal Trade reveals that consumers reported losing a massive $201 million to romance scams in 2019, which was almost a 40% increase since 2018. We see internet dating scams as a growing problem around the world, and as a leading detective agency we often deal with the fallout of Thai dating/romance scams, with many clients seeking to trace the person (or people) that have defrauded them.
When it comes to Thai dating scams or romance scams in general, we believe that prevention is always better than cure. Performing checks early on in a relationship is a better course of action than trying to locate the perpetrator of a dating scam after the damage has been done. We certainly encourage anyone that holds suspicions about their partner to verify their claims and check that they are who they claim to be.
Thai dating scams can take many different forms; however, we tend to see certain tactics being used more often than others. Here are some of the most common Thai dating scams.
Fake identity scams are often practiced by fraudsters around the world. Put simply, the fraudster will steal the identity of another person, and using their photos, will convince their victims that they are speaking to a Thai woman. The fraudster might not be female themselves, or even based in Thailand.
You might think that you could never be fooled by a romance scam where the scammer is using a fake identity; however, it's important to remember that many professional fraudsters are very good at their jobs, and can make scams using false identities appear very convincing. Thousands of people annually fall victim to romance scams which involve stolen identities.
This is the classic "Thai girlfriend scam" which is commonly known around the world. Put simply, some Thai ladies aim to find several foreign boyfriends. Some of these men will send money on a regular basis, some guys will only send cash when the lady needs extra money. Some boyfriends will not send any money; however, they will visit Thailand and pay for lavish vacations for the lady to enjoy, and buy gifts for their girlfriend while they are in the country.
By having multiple boyfriends, attractive Thai ladies are able to earn themselves huge amounts of money, and it's easy to understand why some women are drawn to this type of scam.
What is the fake university student scam? Well, many ladies that work in the Thai sex industry will use online dating in order to find potential boyfriends and victims for romance scams. These ladies will not disclose their true occupation to their partners, and some will claim to be university students, while they in fact work in the Thai red-light areas.
Other ladies will claim to hold legitimate jobs at retail stores, restaurants, or companies, whilst they actually in the sex industry.
In order for the fake university student scam to work, the lady will typically visit a local university and take many different photos there. If the lady is falsely claiming to be employed somewhere, she will typically take a lot of photos in that workplace in order to make the scam appear convincing. Borrowing work uniform from friends in order to make the photos appear convincing is another common tactic used for the scam.
You are dating a Thai lady and one day she claims that she has been arrested, usually for an obscure crime. The lady will send you photos of her sitting inside a jail cell or police station, she might make a panicked phone call telling you that she has been arrested. Next thing you know, you are wiring wads of cash to one of her family members to pay her bail and secure her release from jail.
This scam is a lot more common than you might think, and something which we deal with often. If a person claims to be locked up in Thailand, we can check to see if this is the case and often gather details on the situation. Typically though, we discover that the lady is not being held by the police, and that she has simply fabricated a story in order to demand cash from her boyfriend.
Some men will claim that they can easily spot any ladyboy (or transgendered person), however, many ladyboys are very difficult to spot from women that were born female. Hormone therapy and cosmetic surgery can make some ladyboys virtually indistinguishable from regular females.
And with male to female genital surgery more popular than ever, many ladyboys have lost any reminder that they were born male. Believe it or not, some guys will struggle to notice the difference between a post-operative ladyboy and a lady that was born female.
We can help to verify the gender of your Thai girlfriend as part of our background check service.
You're dating a Thai lady through the internet, perhaps you've not met her in person yet (or perhaps you have), and one day she sends you photos from inside a hospital… She claims to be sick, through illness or an accident, and you guessed it, she needs help with her medical bills.
The lady will usually take photos of herself in a hospital bed (or a clinic which looks similar a hospital) in order to make the scam as convincing as possible. This scam is often successful, with many concerned guys wiring money to their girlfriends as soon as possible.
It's important to understand that Thai dating scams are usually perpetrated by professional fraudsters. People that earn a living through romance or dating scams typically do so over a number of years. They learn how to convince you with their lies, and how to extract the most amount of money from each victim.
Due to the sophistication of many scammers, discovering that you are being lied to is often extremely difficult or impossible in some cases. With that said, we have put together the following tips which might protect you from Thai dating scams.
Scammers are excellent at creating situations where they are desperate for money – they may actually be desperate for money. However, sending money to someone that you have never met in real life is never a good idea. Before wiring money, why not jump on a plane and meet them face to face? This will give you a chance to get to know the person, verify their identity, and see how they actually behave in real life.
Romance scammers will typically use information from social media websites, or information which has been sent to them, to better understand their victims, for identity theft, and even to use their victims' identity in further scams.
By understanding more about their victim's personal lives, romance scammers are able to better understand how to manipulate them and commit acts of fraud. Private information is intended to be just that – private. Keep a tight grip on information that you are sharing through the internet and consider which details you decide to share.
If you are dating someone from Thailand, try to use video calling as much as possible. Ask yourself: Does this person match their photos? Do they sound the same during both audio and video calls? Do they speak in the same way that they write messages to you? As her to turnaround and show her surroundings, where is she?
Some romance scammers can playback pre-recorded footage during video calls, so pay close attention during the calls. Mention subjects which you have previously discussed through text chat, does she remember your past conversations? Is this the same person that you have been speaking with via text?
If you are internet dating a lady from Thailand (or even a ladyboy or a man), then physically meeting that person in real life should be a priority for you. This will not only allow you to verify that they truly exist, but also to get to know them and understand if you are a true match.
Speaking with someone over the internet, and physically living with them 24/7, are two different things altogether, and we would suggest meeting them in real life as soon as possible if you are serious about the relationship.
If you are not able to meet them in person, or would like further assurances before you decide to take that step, then we would certainly recommend hiring a professional to run checks.
If you are dealing with a professional fraudster, then it will often take a professional detective that is experienced in romance scam investigations to help get to the bottom of a situation or confirm that a person is legitimate.
Due to the prevalence of Thai romance scams, it often makes sense to protect your interests by hiring a private investigator to verify claims that have been made by your partner. We can help to investigate Thai girlfriend scams, saving you time, money, and heartache.
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We offer a number of different services which can be used to detect dating scams, including:
Don't allow yourself to fall victim to a Thai dating scam. If you require the help from an experienced private investigator, then contact one of our experienced team members for a free, no pressure quote. Please include as much information as possible with your inquiry so that we are able to understand your requirements and how we are able to help.
If you are being cheated on, then discovering that this is the case can prove to be very difficult in many cases, and even more so if you are not living in the same country as your partner. If your partner is running a Thai girlfriend scam then the odds of catching her out will be even lower, as professional romance scammers are excellent at concealing their true activities.
However, there are some small signs which you can look for that might indicate your partner is being unfaithful. We have put together the following signs that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you.
If your Thai girlfriend's social media accounts are filled with foreign guys, this is a strong indication that she might be cheating on you. If her photos are receiving many likes and comments from other men, this shows that other guys are interested in her and perhaps have more involvement with her than you might think.
A normal Thai lady will typically not have many foreign men as friends on her social media accounts – if your Thai girlfriend does, then you should question why that is. Is she meeting with a lot of foreign men at work? Did you meet her through online dating and if so, is she still using online dating to find more guys?
In order for the Thai girlfriend scam to work, ladies will often create multiple different Facebook accounts. This allows them to have one account for close family members, and other accounts for foreign boyfriends. Ladies that are well versed in the Thai girlfriend scam will often use separate Facebook accounts for each boyfriend; doing this allows each boyfriend to be listed as "in a relationship" with her, and prevents them from seeing comments left by each other.
Of course, if your Thai girlfriend does have multiple accounts, then you might not know this is the case, as the lady will aim to keep them hidden from you. A common trick for ladies with multiple Facebook accounts is to block her boyfriend on all her other hidden accounts which are used for other boyfriends. Blocking the man's account means that all of her secret profiles will remain hidden to him.
If your girlfriend doesn't answer the phone when you call her, this could be an indication that she is around another man and doesn't want him to hear your conversation with her. If she immediately sends you a message after you have tried to call her, or calls you back for a very brief conversation, these could also act as warning signs that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you.
Ladies that are spending time with other guys have been known to make phone calls from the balcony or bathroom of their lover's hotel room. Other times they might make an excuse to visit the nearest convenience store and make a call to their overseas boyfriend at the same time.
Drinking is accepted in Thai culture, but in moderation. If your girlfriend is out drinking with friends, at clubs and bars on a regular basis, this is a strong indication that she might be cheating on you.
In areas such as Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket, many women freelance at bars and clubs… That is to say that they visit clubs (or bars) in the evening with the goal of meeting customers there. If your girlfriend is regularly drinking in bars and clubs, ask yourself why that is.
Is your Thai girlfriend's relationship status set to "single" on social media despite her being in a relationship with you? Does she make excuses when you ask her to set her status to "in a relationship"? Perhaps she changes her Facebook account before changing her relationship status… These are all red flags that your girlfriend is wanting to conceal your relationship and appear available to other men.
If a Thai lady is truly committed to one partner, then she should have no issues with changing her relationship status to "in a relationship with Your Name", and sharing photos of her boyfriend throughout her social media accounts.
If a Thai lady is practicing point number 2, then this point might be null and void.
How does your Thai girlfriend support herself, and what type of lifestyle is she living? If your Thai girlfriend is not working a regular job, then where does her money come from?
Not working in a regular, stable job could act as a warning sign that she might be earning money through her relationships, or in the red-light areas.
Over the years we have seen many cases where ladies were falsely claiming to have regular jobs in cafés, restaurants, coffee shops, banks, real estate, the list goes on. When we have been asked to step in and check ladys' occupations, it often transpires that they are not working where they claim to be at all. Women that decide to lie about their jobs will often make their stories convincing by taking photos in the alleged workplace, or posing for photos wearing borrowed work uniform in many cases.
If your Thai girlfriend is constantly coming up with excuses to ask you for money, then perhaps she views you as more of an ATM machine than as a boyfriend.
Of course, if your Thai girlfriend does not earn much money, then you might decide to support her with an allowance or by sending regular gifts… If this is happening in your case, then you should question whether her primary motivation for your relationship is money. If it is then the odds that she will cheat on you are significantly higher.
Is your girlfriend very guarded around her phone? Does she hide her phone screen when you are together and not let you borrow her device? This should act as a warning sign that she might be speaking with other men and doesn't want you to catch on.
Think about it for a moment, if a lady has nothing to hide, then why would she closely guard her phone screen? There is no real excuse for this, and if she is speaking to her friends in the Thai language then you probably will not be able to understand her messages anyway.
If your girlfriend often leaves you to make phone calls in private whilst you are together then this is another warning sign. After all, if you don't speak Thai then you will not be able to understand her conversations – unless she is speaking in English with other men.
What type of lifestyle does your girlfriend lead and how much money does she earn? Does she often post photos of expensive meals on Instagram? Is her body adorned with gold jewellery? Is she living in a high-end condominium or house? How much is she paying in rent?
These are the types of question that you should ask yourself in order to gauge whether the lady might be living above her means. If she is living above her means, then perhaps she has other forms of income which you don't know about – this might include other relationships.
If your girlfriend won't say the words "I love you" while on the phone, then you should question why that is. After all, these words will only be understood by another English speaker, as only 20-30% of Thai people are able to speak English, who is she worried about overhearing the conversation? Is she embarrassed to say that she loves you, or worried that someone might overhear her? Both options should form a cause for concern.
If your Thai girlfriend has tattoos and smokes cigarettes, these are definite signs that she might be involved in the Thai nightlife scene, and will be more likely to cheat on you.
Most women in Thailand do not smoke cigarettes, and the ones that do tend to be found in beer bars, karaoke bars, and other seedy venues. While attitudes towards tattoos in Thailand are slowly shifting, they can act as another signal that your girlfriend might have worked in the Thai nightlife or "adult entertainment" scene.
If you are having concerns that your Thai girlfriend might be cheating on you, then we can help to investigate her lifestyle and let you know whether or not this is the case. We offer free, confidential quotes for all work. Please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for help and advice. In order for us to assess your situation and provide a quote, we will need to know which area in Thailand your girlfriend lives, whether she is employed, and any other background information that could help us to understand your situation.
Do you need to check whether a Thai identity document is genuine? Perhaps you need to verify the authenticity of a Thai ID card, driving license, or passport. We can help to check and confirm that these identity documents are real and not forged.
If you need to verify that a Thailand identity card is not fake, then our detectives would perform an identity verification check. This check is useful if you are seeking to verify a person’s identity and check that you have not received forged documents from them.
Checking that an identity card or document is genuine can help to prevent you falling victim to fraud. We can help to check identity documents and provide conclusive results every time.
The identity verification check can be used for premarital background screening, or to screen employees during candidate screening. We have also provided this service to educational intuitions such as schools and universities in order to check their staff or pupils; often an identity verification check is also combined with a criminal records check, in order to confirm that the subject’s documents are real and that they have a clean criminal record.
Fake identity documents can be purchased all-over the world and examples of forged identity cards are often found to be extremely realistic and convincing. The potential for a criminal to commit fraud and cover their tracks using forged identification documents is all too apparent. In many cases it makes sense to check and confirm that a document is real, and this is where our identity verification service comes in.
Our identity verification service can be a vital tool used to detect and prevent fraud. As part of our Thai identity verification service, we will check key records relating to the subject such as their full name, date of birth, photo, address, gender, and identity number. Checking that these details are correct allows us to verify that the identity document is genuine – whether the document is a Thai ID card, Thai driving license, Thai passport, or even a Thai birth certificate.
In addition to this check, we can also addon other checks depending on the needs and requirements of our client in each case. In premarital background screening, for example, we may addon a marriage/divorce history check, which can paint a picture about the subject’s marriage history. For candidate screening, a criminal records check, or reference checks, might be more common addons… Whatever the case, we will do our best to offer whichever solution our client prefers in each case.
If you would like more information then please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for a free quote. Be sure to let us know any checks that you are interested in and we will endeavour to find the best and most cost-effective solution to meet your individual needs.
Fraud is a growing problem across the world, and we aim to help protect our clients from it wherever possible by advising them when things don’t add up. Our screening services can provide an excellent toolkit which can be used to fight fraud and romance scams. We have saved our clients vast amounts of money by performing corporate due diligence and screening services – rest assured that by choosing to put us in your corner, that we will do everything possible to seek the truth and to help enable you to make informed decisions.
One of the most common checks offered by us in addition to an identity verification check would be a criminal records check. This check will examine the subject for a criminal background by checking their criminal records, and critically also checking for active arrest warrants. We can also check current and previous employment records, marriage records, and more.
Checking a person’s criminal record helps you to verify that they are of good nature and do not have any criminal history which you might prefer to be aware of. Running a criminal records check is typically a must for overseas employers or educational institutions.
Our identity verification and criminal record screening services are often used by overseas detectives, law firms, educational institutions, as well as private companies and individuals. Whether you need to check 1 person or 100 people, we offer comprehensive checks with fast turnaround times.
If you would like more information on our screening services then please check our homepage for more information on the different services that we offer, or feel free to get in touch with us for a free quote.
Is my Thai girlfriend cheating on me? If you are reading this blog post then it's safe to assume there is already some doubt in your mind.
Thai women as a whole generally remain loyal to their partners and acts of infidelity are typically frowned on in Thai society. However, most women in Thailand cannot speak English and only become romantically involved with Thai men. When it comes to relationships between Thai women and foreign men, lines can become blurred and what is perceived as acceptable behaviour can vary, especially when there are financial incentives at play.
A Thai lady that is married to a Thai man might have little to gain by cheating on him with other Thai men. However, a lady that is living in somewhere such as Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket, has to opportunity to regularly meet foreign men, and with that comes the potential to gain vast amounts of money through forming multiple relationships with them. Make no mistake about it, the Thai girlfriend scam, when performed correctly, can allow a lady to earn massive amounts of money.
The incentive of making money is often enough for a lady to bend her morals, especially if she comes from an impoverished family that might be struggling with money. If a lady can help to feed her family and provide them with a better quality of life through lying to her boyfriend, or by having multiple boyfriends, then the needs of her family will almost always come before that of a foreign boyfriend.
According to a study conducted by Durex, cheating is prevalent in Thailand, with 6 out of 10 Thai women admitting to cheating on a regular basis.
Some Thai men practice polygamy, with what they describe as "mia noys". "Mia noy" roughly translates to "minor wife" – that is, another wife in addition to his main partner. This type of polygamy has existed in Thailand for hundreds of years and has typically been more prevalent among wealthy Thais – generally the wealthier a man is, the more wives he might have.
With infidelity running deep in Thai culture – can you trust your Thai girlfriend not to cheat on you?
If you suspect that your Thai girl is cheating on you, then we think there is something to be said for trusting your instincts. However, it’s important to recognize the difference between a lady having an affair, and a lady that is involved with the Thai girlfriend scam.
As a foreigner, you may find yourself becoming the target of a Thai girlfriend scam, and we think it's important to understand how scams can work in order to try and avoid them yourself.
There is a subset of women in Thailand who aim to involve themselves with multiple different foreign men, all of whom will believe that they are the lady's only boyfriend. By forming multiple relationships with several foreigners, some ladies are able to earn themselves vast amounts of money.
With many foreigners sending an allowance to their Thai girlfriends every month, it's easy to see how the perpetrators of romance scams are able to earn sizeable incomes by receiving money from their partners. If the scam continues over many years, then the men will typically become very trusting of their Thai girlfriend - some guys will even buy houses or cars for their Thai girlfriends before realizing they have been played.
We have seen many cases of Thai girlfriend scams in different forms over a number of years, and we don't foresee the flow slowing down or stopping anytime soon.
While the Thai girlfriend scam has typically been popular among Thai bar girls (and still is), we have seen a growing number of ladies forming multiple relationships with foreign men using dating apps and websites. Communicating over the internet can help the lady to rapidly form relationships with different men and gain their trust. It is also easy for a Thai lady to portray a respectable image of herself to men that she has met through the internet.
Women that practice this scam usually do so over a number of years, which allows them to hone their skills and they often become experts at manipulating their foreign boyfriends. Some women will even share tips between themselves on the best tactics, and write messages for each other's boyfriends in the English language. This type of scam, while deplorable on a moral level, is a fine art which when pulled off correctly can offer huge rewards and live changing sums of money for the ladies responsible.
If you are involved with a Thai lady that makes her living through scamming her foreign boyfriends, then figuring out you are being lied to can prove to be extremely difficult, or impossible in many cases.
Scammers become excellent liars and know exactly the things to say to put your mind at ease. They build a toolbox filled with convincing excuses to explain away their activity. They learn the lies which work and the ones which don't. They learn to read their boyfriends, and only to ask for money when each boyfriend seems comfortable (this will not be early on in the relationship in most cases). Scammers learn how to get the most from each boyfriend.
Victims of the Thai girlfriend scam will think that their girlfriend is "different" and that it could never happen to them. Lead on by a desire for romance, most victims to romance scams will believe anything their Thai girlfriend tells them… It can typically take several years for these men to realize that they have fallen victim to a scam, others may never realize the truth.
Often, if a lady has a sponsor that is taking care of her financial needs, she will seek out younger men to spend time with… If the lady is already receiving an allowance every month, then she won't need to ask for help from her young boyfriends, and will enjoy the romance of a younger man whilst being supported by older ones.
In order to catch a professional scammer, it often takes a professional investigator.
We have caught literally thousands of cheating Thai women over the years… We can help to investigate your Thai girlfriend and find out whether or not she is telling the truth or being faithful to you. Many of our clients would never have got to the truth of their relationship without engaging our services, and our clients are usually glad to uncover the truth.
We feel that it's important to understand your Thai girlfriend's circumstances, her background, history, and her family's circumstances. Due to the Thai concept of 'saving face', Thai ladies tend to be reluctant when it comes to sharing information about their families and personal lives early on in a relationship.
Many ladies that seek out relationships with foreigners come from poor farming villages, their families are often impoverished and struggling with debt. However, don't expect your girlfriend to be upfront and honest about this. In Thai culture, exposing your vulnerabilities can be seen as losing face, which is a fate worse than death for many Thais. In addition to this, Thai ladies are not stupid and fully understand that explaining they are in debt, or from a very poor family, will not be taken well by a lot of men... Some guys might simply walk away from a relationship if they realize that their Thai girlfriend is very poor.
Why does this matter? Well, if your Thai girlfriend is in dire need of money to support her family, repay loans, or for any other reason, then she might be more likely to try and earn extra cash through working in the sex industry or through forming romantic relationships with multiple foreign men as part of a Thai girlfriend scam.
Of course, your girlfriend will not want to share information with you that is likely to put you off her or damage your relationship… Finding out that your partner is in a huge amount of debt, or that her family home is a wooden shack on the verge of collapse, for example, will be perceived as discouraging to most foreign men.
Earning extra cash through the sex industry is easier than you might think. If your girlfriend is living in a city such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, or Chiang Mai, then it's easy for her to freelance at a nightclub or bar. Freelancing is simply the act of meeting with men for sex, whilst having no commitments to a particular establishment. Many women that work 'normal' jobs during the daytime will freelance in the evenings to have fun and earn extra cash.
Other women will use dating apps to seek out foreign men – some women can have 5 or 6+ boyfriends at the same time. While this might seem farfetched to some, attractive Thai women have no trouble finding interested men using the internet, and forming romantic bonds with them is not difficult to a lady practiced in romance scams.
It's important to realize that bars in Thailand are more like brothels which serve alcohol rather than conventional beer bars that you might find in a Western country.
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The goal for women working in Thai bars is to leave their bar with customers as often as possible. The customer will be required to pay a fee to the bar for taking their lady, known as a "bar fine". The lady will usually receive a percentage of the bar fine, as well as earning commission on drinks that are purchased for her. Of course, in addition to paying a bar fine, the customer will need to make a payment directly to the lady for her time.
Newcomers to Thailand often find themselves forming relationships with bar girls. Most often the lady will continue to leave the bar with customers while denying this fact to her boyfriend, or boyfriends.
If your girlfriend is working at a bar in Thailand then the odds that she will be cheating on you whilst you are out of the country are substantially higher. In fact, most of the Thai bar girls investigated by us are found to be cheating on their partners (see our blog post: Thai girlfriend statistics).
Bar girls often earn a living through lying to their boyfriends and continuing to leave their bar with customers while their boyfriends are out of the country… Most men fall for the bar girl scam hook line and sinker.
If your girlfriend is working a bar in Thailand then we can help to check her activities while you are not around, for many guys that are involved with bar girls this is the only way to discover the truth about their partners. If your girlfriend is working at a Thai bar, then choosing to hire a private investigator can save you huge amounts of time, money and heartache.
If you're wondering whether your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you then we can help. We offer various methods that can be used to investigate Thai ladies, such as our background check service, personal surveillance, decoy service, and more. Please feel free to get in touch with us explaining your situation and we will endeavour to offer the best and most cost-effective solution in your case; we offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.