Is my Thai girlfriend cheating on me?

November 23, 2020 - Reading time: 6 minutes

Thai women as a whole generally remain loyal to their partners and acts of infidelity are typically frowned upon in Thai society. However, most women in Thailand cannot speak English and only become romantically involved with Thai men. When it comes to relationships between Thai women and foreign men, lines can become blurred and what is perceived as acceptable behaviour can vary, especially if there are financial incentives at play. 

A Thai lady that is married to a Thai man might have little to gain be cheating on him with other Thai men. However, a lady that is living in somewhere such as Bangkok or Pattaya, and regularly meeting foreigners, has the potential to gain vast amounts of money through forming multiple relationships. The incentive of making money is often enough for a lady to bend her morals, especially if she comes from an impoverished family that might be struggling financially. If a lady can help to feed her family and provide them with a better quality of life through lying to her boyfriend, or having multiple boyfriends, then typically the needs of her family will come before that of a foreign spouse.

Infidelity in Thailand

If you suspect that your Thai girl is cheating on you, then we think there is something to be said for trusting your instincts. However, it’s important to recognize the difference between a lady having an affair, and a lady that is involved with the Thai girlfriend scam. 

There is a subset of women in Thailand that aim to involve themselves with multiple different foreign men, all of whom believe that they are the lady’s only boyfriend. Women that practice this scam usually do so over a number of years, which allows them to hone their skills and they often become experts at manipulating their foreign boyfriends. Some women will also share tips between themselves on the best tactics, and write messages for each other’s boyfriends in the English language.

If you are involved with a Thai lady that makes her living through scamming her foreign boyfriends, then figuring out you are being lied to can prove extremely difficult, or impossible in many cases. Scammers become excellent liars and know exactly the things to say to put your mind at ease. They build a toolbox filled with convincing excuses to explain away their activity. They learn the lies which work and the ones which don’t. They learn not to ask for money early on in a relationship, and how to get the most from each boyfriend.

In order to catch a professional scammer, it often takes a professional investigator.

We have caught literally thousands of cheating Thai women over the years… We can help to investigate your Thai girlfriend and find out whether or not she is telling the truth or being faithful to you. Many of our clients would never have got to the truth of their relationship without engaging our services, and are usually glad to finally uncover the truth.

Understanding your Thai girlfriend 

We feel that it’s important to fully understand your Thai girlfriend’s circumstances, her background, and her family’s circumstances. Due to the Thai concept of ‘saving face’, Thai ladies tend to be reluctant when it comes to sharing information about their families and personal lives early on in a relationship. For example, many ladies that seek out relationships with foreigners come from poor farming villages, their families are often impoverished and struggling with debt. However, don’t expect your girlfriend to be upfront and honest about this. In Thai culture, exposing 

Why does this matter? Well, if your Thai girlfriend is in dire need of money to support her family, repay loans, or for any other reason, then she might be more likely to try and earn extra cash through working in the sex industry or through forming romantic relationships with multiple foreign men.

Of course, your girlfriend will not want to share information with you that is likely to put you off or damage your relationship… Finding out that your partner is in a huge amount of debt, or that her family home is a wooden shack on the verge of collapse, will be perceived as discouraging to most Thai women.

Earning extra cash through the sex industry is easier than you might think. If your girlfriend is living in a city such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, or Chiang Mai, then it’s easy for her to freelance at a nightclub or bar. Freelancing is simply the act of meeting with foreign men for sex, whilst having no commitments to a particular establishment. Many women that work ‘normal’ jobs during the daytime will freelance in the evenings to have fun and earn extra cash. Other women will use dating apps to seek out foreign men – some women can have 4 or 5 boyfriends at the same time.

Is your girlfriend working in a Thai bar? 

It’s important to realize that bars in Thailand are more like brothels which serve alcohol rather than conventional beer bars that you might find in a Western country. The goal of women working in Thai bars is to leave their bar with customers as often as possible.

If your girlfriend is working at a bar in Thailand then the odds that she will be cheating on you whilst you are out of the country are substantially higher. In fact, most of the Thai bar girls investigated by us are found to be cheating on their partners (see our blog post: Thai girlfriend statistics).

Bar girls often earn a living through lying to their boyfriends and continuing to leave their bar with customers while their boyfriends are out of the country… Most men fall for the bar girl scam hook line and sinker.

If your girlfriend is working a bar in Thailand then we can help to check her activities while you are not around, for many guys that are involved with bar girls this the only way to discover the truth about their partners. Choosing to hire a private investigator can save you huge amounts of time, money and heartache.

Check your Thai girlfriend

If you’re wondering whether your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you then we can help. We offer various methods that can be used to investigate Thai ladies, such as our background check service, personal surveillance, decoy service, and more. Please feel free to get in touch with us explaining your situation and we will endeavour to offer the best and most cost effective solution in your case; we offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.


Debt recovery in Bangkok

November 20, 2020 - Reading time: 4 minutes

Debt recovery is often a difficult task, and this could not be more true in a place such as Thailand. Debtors will often try to hide from their obligations; tracking them down and encouraging them to make good on their debts can prove difficult, and in some cases, recovering money might not possible.

There are numerous firms offering debt recovery services in Thailand, with varying methods on offer. New companies spring up every year and it can often take them some time to grasp the difficulties faced in this industry. Ultimately, it falls on our clients to decide on the most appropriate tactic to be used in their case. 

We offer a debt recovery service which is unique, and in most cases highly effective. If we are able to accept your case then we will offer you a free, no obligation quote. We don’t try to pressurize or encourage our clients into proceeding with a case, once we have provided a quote it is a matter for our clients to decide whether or not they would like to go ahead with our service.

How we can help

If you’re looking for a debt collector to make phone calls to debtors from the comfort of their office with the hope of resolving unpaid accounts, then we are not the firm for you. Our debt recovery service entails confronting debtors and piling on as much pressure as necessary to secure a resolution… We do not offer ‘phone call debt recovery’.

The goal of our debt collection service is to take things up a notch and make debtors aware of their obligations, and the potential consequences of refusing to make good on their debts. We have offered our debt recovery service for several years and are often seen as a last resort where others have failed.

Skip tracing in Thailand

Often our debt recovery service also involves an element of skip tracing; that is using investigative techniques to track down a debtor before approaching them with a view to collecting money. Skip tracing can take many different paths and is entirely dependent upon the information which is held by our clients in each case. If you need our help to track down a debtor then please feel free to get in touch with us; we will need to be armed with all available information on the debtor in order to assess the situation and consider how we’re able to help. 

Get a free quote

If you would like a quote for our debt recovery service then please get in touch with us and include all information relevant to your case. We will need to know some basic facts about your circumstances before we are able to offer a quote, such as the how the debt was accrued, whether the debtor is a company or an individual, whether the debtor is a Thai citizen or a foreigner, the amount outstanding, and whether or not you are currently in Thailand. Please be sure to include these details when getting in touch with us and we will gladly offer more information about our techniques and a quote if we are able to accept your case.

Please note that due to the nature of our debt recovery service we are not able to accept all cases that are offered to us, and we reserve the right to refuse cases which would not be a good match for our service. All work is completed on a case by case basis and we will need to assess the strength of your position before offering our service.

Our debt recovery service is focused on the Bangkok area. We can sometimes assist with cases in other areas of Thailand, please feel free to contact us with the debtors location (the Thai province and amphoe or town in which they reside), and see whether we can be of assistance.


Private investigators in Pattaya & Jomtien

November 18, 2020 - Reading time: 3 minutes

Do you require the services of a private investigator in Pattaya? Our Pattaya branch office can help with a wide range of different issues including Thai lady investigations, foreign men investigations, background checks, corporate due diligence, missing people, and much more.

We cover all areas of Pattaya, Jomtien, and Chon Buri. We offer free quotes for all work, please feel free to reach out to us and see how we are able to help in your case. Please include any relevant details such as the location you need us to work so that we are able to understand your situation and provide a quote.

Hiring a private investigator in Pattaya

Pattaya city is known the world over for its wild nightlife scene... The town has an estimated 30,000 prostitutes actively working in beer bars, a go-go bar, massage parlours, night clubs, and many other places. With working girls in all areas of the city, it is no wonder that Pattaya is often described as “sin city”. We often investigate Thai women that are living in Pattaya in order to check whether they are being faithful while their partners are living overseas. However, checking on Thai ladies is far from the full scope of work carried out by us, and we handle an equal amount of cases involving foreign men that are visiting Pattaya. We can also help with corporate due diligence investigations, missing people cases, and more.

Contact us

We offer free, no pressure quotes for all work. Please feel free to contact one of our experienced team members and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

Investigations agency in Chon Buri

Both Pattaya and Jomtien are located in the Chon Buri province, which is on Thailand’s eastern seaboard and approximately 80 kilometres from Thailand’s capital of Bangkok. Chon Buri is a popular destination for overseas holidaymakers and domestic tourists alike. Our services extend to all areas of Chon Buri province and across Thailand.

How to proceed

We are always happy to help and aim to assist our clients wherever possible. We recognize that instructing a detective agency can be a difficult decision for some of our clients, and we are happy to offer free consultations to all prospective clients. If we are able to help in your case then we will provide you with a free, no obligation quote. It will then be a matter for yourself whether to proceed with opening a case.


Evict a tenant in Bangkok

November 8, 2020 - Reading time: 3 minutes

Property eviction in Bangkok

Do you need to evict someone from your property in Bangkok? We recognize that if someone is living in your property against your will then this can cause stress and anxiety which can create a huge inconvenience to property owners or renters alike. If we are contacted by the true owner/lessor of a property then we are often able to help and evict rouge tenants, or other individuals, that are living in a property without consent. If you would like to learn more about our methods and pricing for property repossession, then please get in touch with us for a free consultation.

Rapid eviction in Bangkok

If someone is living in your property and you don’t want them there, then getting them out as quickly as possible would be a natural priority. Our team are standing-by and ready to help wherever possible. We can get to work as soon as we have received payment from you, allowing you to enjoy your property without unwanted individuals trespassing upon it. We can help to remove rouge tenants, and even Thai girlfriends or partners that refuse to leave. For a fast response, please include all of the relevant information when getting in touch with us. We will need your property’s address in order to provide a quote for vacating the premises.

Property eviction in Thailand

In some cases, we have been able to help evict people from properties in areas of Thailand outside Bangkok, such as in the northern provinces of Isan. However, whether or not we are able to help in your case will depend on the exact area where your property is located – we will need to know which Thai province, district, and amphoe your property is located in, in order to determine whether or not we are able to help. Although we are based in Bangkok, we endeavour to help with property repossessions in other areas of Thailand wherever we are able to do so.

Proof of ownership

Suffice it to say that If you are seeking to evict someone from your property in Thailand, then you will need to provide adequate evidence that you are the sole owner of the property. This proof could come in the form of title deeds (a Chanote or Nor Sor 4), or other documentation such as a Tabien Baan (Thai house book), or a lease which exclusively lists your name. 

We can help to evict people from both homes and apartments (or condominium units). In some cases, we can also help to aid the process of vacating commercial buildings; however, whether or not we are able to accept your case will depend entirely on the circumstances. Please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members and we will offer you a free, no obligation quote if we are able to help.

How to proceed

Please feel free to get in touch with us for a free quote. We will need to know the location of your property, your relationship with the tenant, and whether or not you are currently in Thailand. Please include these details along with any other relevant information and we will do our best to help.


Finding biological parents in Thailand (adoption tracing)

November 1, 2020 - Reading time: 10 minutes

If you are the adopted parent to a child with biological Thai parents, then it’s likely your child will want to learn more about their origins at some point in their life. Running a trace on Thai parents can help to answer questions from curious young people and provide answers, such as finding out whether or not a person has siblings in Thailand, whether their parents are still alive and what type of lives they lead.

It often makes sense to seek out information about birth parents before your child has started to grow curious about their birth parents. Seeking out information after decades have passed can make the task more difficult, and in some cases the people concerned may pass away through old age or ill health; in these unfortunate cases the deceased person may lose their opportunity to connect with their biological children post adoption. 

In many cases it is beneficial for us to conduct a field investigation after tracing someone on paper. Sending an experienced, local private detective to speak with the birth parents can allow us to photograph them in their homes, and to gather useful information from them (such as whether any siblings exist, for example). We will translate anything that is said and send you a report with our findings, written in fluent English, and including any photos or video that was gathered while making inquiries on your behalf. Particularly in cases where the parents are impoverished, reading a report with photos illustrating their day to day life can provide a valuable insight for adopted children.

Finding biological parents in Thailand is one of the most challenging and rewarding services that is offered by us. We aim to understand our clients’ needs and offer the best solution in each case. We offer free consultations for all work… Please feel free to get in touch with us and see if we are able to help in your case.

In some cases, we are instructed to trace a person in Thailand and provide their contact information; in other cases, we can also make contact with individuals after tracing them. We can visit people in Thailand and translate your messages to them in their native language, whilst gathering images and information that can help to paint a picture about the life which they lead in Thailand. Our experienced local agents endeavour to handle these cases sensitively and work for the best interests of all people involved.

How to find parents in Thailand

The difficulty of locating biological parents in Thailand depends on the type of information that you hold. Please read the information on this page in order to gain an understanding about the process of tracing people in Thailand and some of the potential difficulties which you might face. 

In 1984 Thailand began the process of issuing 13-digit identification numbers to their citizens and rolling out computerization, though the changes may have been adopted more slowly in certain parts of the country. The 13-digit identification number stays with a person their entire lives, even if they change their name or move address. The number is printed on all identity documents, such as ID cards, driving licenses, passports and birth certificates.

Thai birth certificates should carry the 13-digit identification number for both parents. These numbers often hold the key and can be used by us to trace biological parents in Thailand. Using an identification number, we can run a search, which if successful would reveal the person’s home address, along with other information such as their photo, date of birth, height and age.

In some ways we can compare the value of identification numbers with IBAN numbers… Let us theorize that you are not trying to find your parents in Thailand but a book in a library. The best way to find a specific book in a library would be to search for the book’s 13-digit IBAN number. This will ensure that you find the exact book you are looking for. If you are searching for a book using its title, then your results may vary. If you know the exact name of the book that you are searching for then your odds of success would be good. If you only have a part-name then your search might draw multiple results. While searching for a book is different to searching for a person, the same principle applies. Using an identification number is always better and preferable; a birth certificate in the Thai language holding identification numbers would be ideal for us to try and find parents, though we will work with whatever information you have, where possible.

Suffice it to say that if a birth certificate is older than 1984 then it will not carry the parent’s identification numbers and a search would instead need to be performed based on their names. 

Tracing Thai people based on their name

It’s important to understand that records in Thailand are held in the Thai language. If you see a Thai person’s name that is written using the English alphabet, bear in mind that this is merely to be used as a rough guide – there are no official translations of peoples’ names in English! Thai people’s names are typically translated into English by computer software, which by itself means that the translations often contain inaccuracies. We have seen many, many instances of names being translated into English incorrectly.

The written letters of the Thai Sanskrit alphabet can often be used to write many different variations of a person’s name, and finding the exact spelling of a person’s name using an English translation presents its own challenges. 

The odds of success for us to trace someone using their name written in the Thai language, and their date of birth, would be 100%. The odds of success for running a trace on someone using their identity number would also be 100%.

If we are attempting to translate a name from English into Thai then the odds of success would be more like 50%. If the name has been translated into English badly then the odds of success might be even lower. 

If you would like to trace a person in Thailand and you only have their first or second name written in the English language then it would be extremely difficult to trace them (just as it would be very difficult to trace any person, in any country, using only their first or last name that has been translated into a foreign language). Of course, in some cases we are able to find people without running a search for them. If our client is able to provide us with details about their previous address, or previous workplace for example then we could potentially make inquiries in order to try and locate the subject... The task of finding people can varying depending on the circumstances in each case.

Phone numbers in Thailand

Our searches do not reveal phone numbers, and there is no database containing phone numbers that can be accessed during the process of tracing a biological parent or any other person in Thailand. A successful search would reveal the subject’s home address, from there we can use our discreet Thai agents to make inquiries on your behalf. We can approach the subject directly and ask if they would like to share their phone number or other contact details. Otherwise you might choose to write a letter to the subject, or even visit them yourself. We are able to help organize reunions and can provide native Thai speakers to help you with translation – our fees for this service depends on the circumstances, including which area we are working in. Please get in touch with us for a free quote.

In most cases it is not possible to find someone’s phone number without visiting their address and speaking to them, or writing them a letter. Usually we would recommend visiting the person and speaking to them rather than writing a letter, however this is ultimately a matter for our clients to decide. For those people that decide to write letters to the biological parents of their child, we cannot emphasize the importance of ensuring your letter is translated accurately and by a skilled translator that is capable of conveying the true meaning behind your words.

Connecting with birth parents in Thailand

Most of the time biological parents are glad to hear about their adopted children. However, in some cases birth parents might not interested in reconnecting with their child. There could be many complex issues behind a parent taking this stance… Some people may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable making contact with their estranged children. We feel that it’s important to realize this as a potential outcome before undertaking the task of tracing your parents in Thailand, and to consider how you might react to such a result. If a person does not wish to be contacted by their birth child, or anyone else, then we believe those requests should be respected. In such a case we will endeavour to gather as much useful information as possible, such as photos, general information about the parents’ lifestyle, and critically whether or not the adopted person has siblings in Thailand. 

Other considerations

Before starting the journey of tracing birth parents in Thailand it would be wise to consider any potential outcomes that may result in a trace. Ask yourself the type of questions that you would like answers to, we will endeavour to understand your needs and seek answers for you sensitively and with your best interests in mind.

Thailand is a unique place with its own customs, culture and class system. Most foreigners will never gain a useful insight into Thai culture and for the best results it is almost always advisable to use a local Thai person while making inquiries on your behalf. 

While there are numerous international companies which endeavour to trace biological parents in Thailand, we feel that the task is always best performed by local Thai people. In many cases we provide tracing services to overseas investigators, law firms and companies... Whilst we are always glad for work to be outsourced to us, many of our clients prefer to deal with us directly; this can allow for better communication and also save our clients money.

If you would like our help to trace biological parents in Thailand then please get in touch with us and let us know what information or documents are available to you (birth certificates in English or Thai languages, adoption paperwork, and/or any other information or documents).


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