Tips for avoiding property scams in Thailand

August 31, 2021 - Reading time: 10 minutes

Thailand has a reputation as being a place where foreigners can be taken advantage of. There are indeed some complicated rules when it comes to foreigners purchasing and owning property in Thailand… We suggest that you fully understand the law and how to correctly navigate it for your situation before deciding to pull the trigger on a property purchase.

As a detective agency, we aim to prevent our clients from falling victim to many different forms of scam. As such, we have put together the following obvious tips which can help you to avoid property scams in Thailand:

1. Avoid buying off-plan 

Buying “off-plan” simply means purchasing a property before it has actually been built. Whether you are purchasing a house or a condominium, buying off-plan often allows for flexible payment terms – you might be able to pay a small deposit, and then make several more payments as the property is being constructed.

However, there have been many documented cases where building projects have failed to get off the ground. Perhaps the development company was not able to secure enough investment, or they ran into issues with zoning or construction permits. Whatever the issue, if construction is halted you risk losing money. We suggest avoiding off-plan purchases for this reason.

The Waterfront Suites condo building in Pattaya

Photo: The infamous Waterfront Suites condominium building at Bali Hai Pier in Pattaya has remained unfinished and derelict for over 6 years, after city officials halted construction citing allegations that the building differed from previously approved construction designs. The building is one of numerous unfinished projects which can be found in the Pattaya area. The building stands in a prominent position besides the large "Pattaya city" sign which is embedded in the hillside.

2. Use a lawyer

You probably wouldn’t purchase a property without a lawyer in your home country, so why would you act differently in Thailand? We recommend that you always use a lawyer when purchasing property in Thailand. 

Find an independent law firm – not one that was recommended by the seller or development company, and thoroughly check the reviews for your lawyer before deciding to go ahead with them. A good lawyer can help you to avoid making costly mistakes.

Do not deal with lawyers who immediately demand an up-front fee for handling your case. Pay them as you go. Up front fees can be anything from 50,000 THB up to 1,000,000 THB. Thai people do not pay their lawyers massive up front fees.

3. Be wary about holding companies

There are some exceptions, but for the most part foreigners are not allowed to own land in Thailand. Indeed, the phrase “Every inch of Thailand belongs to the Thais” is included in the first verse of the Thai national anthem.

In order to forego the rules on land ownership, some foreigners might setup holding companies, of which they will own 49%, in order to purchase land. The remaining 51% of shares will be owned by Thai people – usually nominee shareholders. You may find a lawyer or barstool lawyer that swears by this approach, and some people may use it without encountering problems, however, we would recommend exercising caution.

Make no mistake about it – setting up a holding company using nominee shareholders for the sole purpose of owning land is completely illegal. That means if your company is audited then you risk losing everything. If other shareholders conspire against you then you risk losing everything.

In recent years we have seen numerous crackdowns on the improper use of Thai registered companies, with many foreigners finding themselves in hot water.

A popular alternative to holding companies is acquiring a 30 year lease over land on which a property sits; for many expats in the later years of their lives that are retiring to Thailand, a 30 year lease will be adequate for their needs.

4. Avoid “do it all” firms

We recommend being very wary of foreigners who run offices which sell property, provide legal advice/consultancy and offer investment or insurance policies all at the same time. The adage ‘a jack of all trades is a master of none’ is relevant to this type of setup. It is best to find a specialist in any respective field.

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5. Check control over utilities

Whether you are purchasing a house or an apartment/condominium in Thailand, always check that the common land, water and electricity will not be controlled by the developer. Some developers will seek to profit on utilities by marking up their cost and pocketing the difference.

6. Be wary of ‘foreign villages or mubans’

Bear in mind that if you buy property inside a 'foreign village or muban', that you will not have Thais to help you if the deal goes belly up. Living with foreigners is no guarantee that you will have good neighbours. It is often the reverse.

7. Be mindful when paying a deposit 

If you are paying a deposit for a house or property, then make sure that you receive a receipt, or preferably a signed contract which clearly stipulates that a deposit has been paid. Do not pay a deposit before you have received legal advice on the proposition from a lawyer.

Whenever you are parting with money in Thailand, whether for a product, service, or especially as a deposit of any type, do not expect that you will be able to receive a refund.

8. Check the surrounding area

When you are deciding to purchase a property in Thailand, be very mindful about the surrounding area. Consider taking a drive around the local vicinity during a storm – does water drain off the roads or are the roads flooded and impassable? If the road leading to your property turns into a river during heavy rain, then you may feel as though you have been scammed. 

Car stuck on a flooded road in Thailand

Photo: Thailand tends to experience a lot of rainfall during the wet season. Make sure that the infrastructure in your area is capable of adequately dispersing the water.

It’s also worthwhile being mindful of vacant land surrounding your development. Especially in metropolitan areas, land is often bought up and developed with little notice. If your property has a sea view, could that be removed or tainted by a nearby development?

9. Speak to the local people

This may seem like a frivolous point, however speaking to the local people in any given area can often uncover many details which you would never find out by researching a property or area through the internet. Local people will be fully aware of the pitfalls of their area and any potential issues with your chosen development. Thais are friendly people and will typically be glad to share their opinions and the local gossip. Suffice it to say that you will need a Thai person to help you make these inquiries if you are unable to speak the Thai language.

This is definitely a taboo subject, however, if you are purchasing an apartment or a condominium unit on a high floor, especially in location such as Pattaya, you should be mindful that no-one has previously committed suicide in or from the unit. Most Thai people are highly superstitious and would not dream of living in a unit where a suicide has previously taken place. Even if it doesn’t bother you, you might struggle to resell such a unit.

We suggest conducting your own research by speaking with other people in your building or development, in addition to the obvious due diligence checks which should be conducted by your lawyer.

10. Be skeptical of ‘guaranteed returns’

If something sounds too good to be true, then it probably is. You would be wise to harbour a deep scepticism for developers or agencies which offer ‘guaranteed rental returns’ on property investments. Some developers may claim that they can guarantee annual returns of up to 10%, or more in some cases; which would mean recouping 100% of your investment over a decade. 

Ask yourself, what is being guaranteed and by whom? Is the guarantee being offered by a bank or financial institution, or is it being underwritten by a development company which has no real capital?

Due to the strict libel laws in Thailand, it would be deeply unwise to point fingers at specific schemes which have collapsed over the years. We suggest that the best defence in most cases is your own common sense.

11. Don’t buy property in someone else’s name

Last but not least, we would suggest that you never purchase a property in someone else’s name, unless you accept that it will truly be their property and that they can ask you to leave at any time. If you decide to take this path, then you should at least arrange to formally lease the property back from them for however long you intend to live there.

Purchasing a property in the name of your Thai wife might afford more legal protection than if the property is placed in your girlfriend’s name, however, this is a complicated legal matter for which you should seek advice from a qualified lawyer - this article does not constitute legal advice.


The reality of dating a Thai bar girl

July 22, 2022 - Reading time: 14 minutes

If you are visiting a touristy area of Thailand, and you enjoy drinking alcohol or spending time in 'adult entertainment' venues, then you are likely to meet plenty of bar girls during your trip. Indeed, many foreigners decide to spend their vacations in Thailand with bar girls and sometimes this can lead them into long term relationships. But what are the realities of dating a lady that works in one of Thailand's night life areas?

What is a Thai bar girl?

Thai bar girls are ladies that work at bars in Thailand. These ladies are responsible for serving drinks and entertaining patrons of their bar, however, their services extend to leaving the bar with customers and spending intimate time with them.

Bar girls earn a small commission each time a drink ('lady drink') is purchased for them by a customer, if a customer decides to leave the bar with a lady and take her to his hotel room then he will need to pay what is known as a "bar fine". A bar fine is effectively a payment which is made to the bar as compensation for them losing a member of staff. The lady will also earn a commission from this payment, as well as a direct payment from the customer himself for her services.

Asian lady wearing a yellow bikini and holding a shell

Popular bar girls have the potential to earn decent sums of money, especially if they are attractive and the customers are keen on them. If the lady is able to find 'sponsors' who decide to commit themselves to her and send her money on a regular basis, then there is a potential for her to earn vast sums of money.

Of course, if the lady does find a sponsor, or a man that commits himself to her, then she will claim 'never to leave the bar with customers', and to only earn money from drinks commissions (or a salary from the bar). This is a story which we have heard time and time again. When we are asked to then conduct an investigation and check, in the vast majority of cases the lady will be happy to leave the bar with us. Most guys believe that their girlfriend is 'different' until they are confronted with the results of an investigation.

Leaving the bar with customers serves multiple purposes. For a start, it allows the lady to earn fast cash, which she might need to support her family or as payment for everyday expenses. Secondly, many bar girls enjoy sleeping with clients and leaving the bar with a man can help to increase her face by showing other women in the bar that she is desirable and able to find customers.

Lastly, hooking up with customers from the bar creates the potential for a serious long term relationship... Some guys do meet with bar girls in Thailand, form an emotional bond and relationship with them, then eventually get married or have children together. Believe it or not, these type of serious, long term relationship can stem from guys meeting 'working girls' in Thailand, and there is a potential for such a relationship to form with each bar fine that is paid.

Why do men date Thai bar girls?

In our experience there are essentially two categories of guys who find themselves in romantic relationships with bar girls. Firstly, there are guys that met their partners whilst vacationing in Thailand and seeing the lady's workplace upfront... Perhaps they spent time with the lady over multiple nights, which turned into several days or weeks, and during that time they formed a romantic bond with the lady which continued after the end of their vacation.

Due to the popularity of online dating sites, apps, and social media, many bar girls are also able to find foreign men online and form relationships with them using the internet. If a lady that works at a bar uses an online dating app, then she will usually claim to work a 'normal' job or that she is studying at university, for example. If you are thousands of kilometres away then you might find that it is impossible to discover the true occupation of the person that you are speaking to.

Asian lady wearing cosplay and holding a drinks tray

If a lady is upfront and honest about the fact that she works in a bar, then she will always claim that she does not leave the bar with customers. However, most of the time when we are asked to check, we find that this claim is false. Bar girls will often call their boyfriends at the same time every night as proof that they are sleeping in their own bed - this can be remedied by making a phone call from their customer's balcony or toilet where he cannot overhear the call, or just making a quick trip to a convenience store and making a call from there. Other times bar girls will call their long term boyfriends in front of their customers, as evidenced by videos which have appeared on popular social media websites.

If a guy is constantly communicating with a lady by sending her messages online or making calls to her every day, then he will feel that he has a pretty good idea of what is going on in her life. The reality of the situation if the lady works at a bar is usually much different; guys can find themselves believing a 'Matrix style' false reality where their 'girlfriend' is seeing multiple guys every week without them ever finding out.

Part time bar girls

Some ladies work at beer bars or clubs on a freelance basis where they can come and go as they please, and some that work normal jobs in the daytime may decide to freelance in the evenings or just hookup with men in a nightclub or a 'freelancer friendly' bar. If your girlfriend does decide to use her spare time in this way then finding out what is going on will be almost impossible if you are not living with her or in the same country.

Why do Thai ladies work in bars?

Ladies often work at bars in Thailand as there is the potential for them to earn decent sums of money. The minimum wage salary in Thailand is relatively low and in many cases not sufficient for supporting a family of people. If a lady is responsible for supporting her family, then working in the adult entertainment industry brings the potential to earn more cash than she otherwise would without having a university degree or some form of stable career or business.

People walking on a busy street in Thailand at night

Working in bars also presents opportunities for the lady to meet with customers, form emotional bonds, and potentially create long term relationships. If a customer decides that he does not want the lady to work in a bar then he might decide to build her a house in her home village and send money to her so that she can live in the countryside without working in an adult entertainment venue. Many guys do hookup with bar girls and invest a lot into their relationships both emotionally and financially.

Searching online you will find many people that advise against forming any type of serious romantic relationship with a bar girl, and the reasons behind this advice are obvious. However, for a Thai lady that does not speak English and would like to find a foreign boyfriend, working in a beer bar or go-go bar could be seen as a means to achieving the goal of finding a partner.

Do bar girls have more than one boyfriend at the same time?

In a television segment which was broadcast as part of the program "Scam City" on Canadian channel Travel + Escape, a Thai lady was interviewed who seemingly confessed to having three foreign boyfriends at the same time. In a classic example of the 'Thai girlfriend scam', the lady explained that some of her boyfriends sent money to her on a regular basis, and others would only send money when she had a 'problem in her family' or was struggling with cash. She went on to say that her boyfriends would support her so that she 'did not need to work in a bar'.

Many guys that fall in love with bar girls really do believe that their girlfriend is 'different', and that she would not cheat on him. The reality is that bar girls are often able to meet with a high volume of different guys, and each client that the lady sees has the potential to turn into a long term relationship/sponsor.

If you find yourself involved in a romantic relationship with a lady that works (or previously worked) at a bar in Thailand, then you might find checking her lifestyle and activities to be a worthwhile endeavour. We can help to perform a Thai lady investigation and check whether she is being truthful to you.

What is the 'girlfriend experience'?

The 'girlfriend experience' is a term which can be used to describe a working lady's relationships with her clients. The lady will effectively treat her client as though he is a long term boyfriend, rather than someone that is paying to spend time with her.

Asian lady wearing sun glasses

Many bar girls are young, attractive and good looking. It is easy to understand how a client could develop feelings for a bar girl, especially if she is providing him with the 'girlfriend experience' and making him feel that he has really formed a special bond with her that extends deeper than a mere business arrangement. Many guys would not plan to enter into a serious relationship with a bar girl until they start to spend time with a working girl and develop feelings for her.

Are there databases of Thai bar girls?

Yes, there are little known about databases which contain ladies that are 'on the game' in Thailand, including bar girls. These databases contain information and images published by the lady's clients, and are searchable by the lady's name or nickname. If a listing exists under the lady's name then her identity can be further verified using images.

While we obviously cannot share links to these databases to non-clients, we typically search them when performing a bar girl investigation or a background check, in order to see whether our client's partner features in them.

Can I make my relationship with a Thai bar girl work?

Some guys that form relationships with bar girls will simply allow their girlfriend to earn money by continuing to sleeping with clients - to them simply accepting the situation is the easiest resolution. In our experience it is far more common for the lady to promise that she will never see other customers, and then continue to do it anyway.

There is effectively no incentive for the lady to stop accepting 'bar fines' if her boyfriend is not sending money to her on a regular basis... And even if you decide to send money to a bar girl, this does not guarantee that she will stop doing her job either, as we often discover during investigations.

Couple sitting together at night overlooking a city skyline

Some men do form relationships with ladies that work at beer bars or go-go bars in Thailand; they go on to get married, have children together, and lasting relationships. However, there is another side to relationships with bar girls which entails lies, deceit, and sexual promiscuity.

Whether or not you can truly 'take the bar out of the girl' will partly depend on whether you are 'financially compatible' with your partner - that is to say that you are capable and willing to provide her with enough cash for her to change her lifestyle and find a normal job. Are you willing to support her financially and to continue doing so for as long as it takes for her to become financially independent (if that ever happens)?

Whether or not a relationship can work will also depend on whether the lady already has existing relationships with other men, and what her intentions are. Of course, determining this is more difficult and is usually something that our clients ask us to help them with. Does she truly crave a long term relationship with one man or is she just looking for a quick pay day...?

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Is adultery acceptable in Thailand?

July 16, 2022 - Reading time: 8 minutes

For our foreign clients that are involved in romantic relationships with Thai people, we would recommend that they perform some basic research on Thai culture, traditions, and etiquette, if they have not already done so. Understanding certain details about your partner's culture can help you to better understand their mindset and expectations for your relationship. As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we are often asked about infidelity and whether it is accepted in Thailand.

No, adultery is not generally acceptable in Thailand, and there are stiff penalties in place for those that are caught. However, this is not to say that adultery does not occur in Thailand and attitudes towards adultery can vary depending upon who you speak to.

Some men will knowingly cheat on their wives with what they call 'mia noi's, for example. Loosely translated to "minor wife", a "mia noi" will be a lady that the man maintains a romantic relationship with in addition to his wife, for a prolonged period. While some men might find it acceptable to cheat on their partner in this way through having a long term affair, that is not to say that their actions are not without consequence if they are caught.

An Asian lady wearing a wedding dress and holding a bouquet of flowers while smiling

For Thai ladies that are involved in romantic relationships with foreigners, the motivation for them to commit infidelity is more likely to be financially related. The so-called 'Thai girlfriend scam', as it is known, typically involves a lady forging romantic ties with multiple different guys, who all believe that they are the only woman in her life. Some boyfriends might send money to the lady, others will only treat her to gifts or during vacations to Thailand. Of course, if you are not married to your partner then while it might be immoral for them to cheat on you, their infidelity will not be classed as adultery.

Is adultery illegal in Thailand?

Thai law protects the sanctity of wedding vows, and adultery can carry harsh penalties in some cases.

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According to legal experts, if you are involved in a romantic relationship with a person that is married, then you could be sued by their husband or wife. Romantic messages and photos can be used as evidence of the relationship, and if a case is backed by solid proof then the third party can be ordered to pay financial compensation to the husband or wife that was cheated on.

The plaintiff can seek compensation by suing the other person without divorcing their partner, and then sue them again for a second time if the affair continues.

Spouses that are cheated on can also seek to be awarded child support which is deducted directly from their ex-partner's salary.

If you are concerned that your Thai partner might be currently married and would like to check their marital status, then we can help by performing a background check for you.

Is adultery common in Thailand?

According to surveys which were conducted in 2012 by dating site Match.com and condom manufacturer Durex, 56% of the Thai respondents admitted to having an affair on their married partner. This statistic ranks Thailand as one of the most adulterous nations surveyed, with Denmark and Italy coming in second and third places respectively.

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Is polygamy allowed in Thailand?

No, polygamy is not allowed in Thailand. It is reported that polygamy was an acceptable practice in Thailand for centuries until it was banned in 1935, just three years after the Siamese Revolution.

Is marriage important in Thailand?

Yes. Marriage is important in Thailand and in Thai culture. Traditionally, some Thais are thought to believe that a romantic relationship does not truly exist until it has been denoted by marriage (or a wedding ceremony).

While many Thais favour an extravagant wedding ceremony with music and food for their friends/family, not all decide to follow up their ceremony by visiting their district registrar and officially registering their marriage. While those getting married in Western countries tend to always register their marriages, this is not always the case in Thailand and some are happy to forego registration of their marriage after holding a wedding ceremony.

Is marriage important to my Thai girlfriend?

Of course, the answer to this question will vary depending on your girlfriend and her own personal beliefs. In the past, we have heard the excuse from cheating Thai ladies that "we weren't even married, so the relationship was not serious". Some Thais do believe that a romantic relationship is not 'bona fide' until a wedding ceremony has taken place.

As in many other countries, marriage (or a wedding ceremony) can be used to share the news to the lady's community that she is now committed to a serious relationship.

Often a 'dowry' or 'sin sod' will be paid to the bride's family by the groom during their wedding ceremony. A dowry payment will typically consist of a pile of cash and gold, property/land deeds can also be included as part of a dowry payment or even an expensive vehicle. The dowry will be displayed for all to see during the wedding ceremony, which can help to increase the lady's 'face' and make the couple appear to be prosperous. The payment has been described as compensation to the bride's family for taking their daughter out of their household. Once this payment is made to the bride's family, it is usually not refundable.

How can I tell if my partner is cheating on me in Thailand?

Finding out for sure whether your partner is actively cheating on you in Thailand can be very difficult or impossible in some cases. Especially if you are not currently in Thailand and your partner is; or if you cannot understand the Thai language, then finding out whether infidelity is taking place in your relationship might prove to be a real challenge.

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As a leading detective agency based in Bangkok and covering all areas of Thailand, we have often helped our clients to check their partner's activities in Thailand. Whether you need us to perform a Thai lady investigation, a background check, or investigate a cheating husband in Thailand, we can help. Please visit our homepage to learn more about us or contact one of our experienced team members for a free quote - please remember to include the exact location of the assignment and all relevant details when getting in touch with us.

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Do I need to send money to my Thai girlfriend?

July 7, 2022 - Reading time: 12 minutes

"Do I need to send money to my Thai girlfriend?" - The answer to this question will of course vary depending upon your girlfriend's circumstances and her financial situation. If your girlfriend comes from a wealthy family, or even a 'middle class' Thai family, then you might find yourself not needing to support her by helping out with money. Indeed if your girlfriend's family are very wealthy, then they might even decide to help you out with spare cash - however cases such as this are not seen by us very often.

Asian lady wearing a white dress

In order to understand the concept of providing for a Thai girlfriend (and her family) by giving her a cash allowance or helping out with money, we feel it's important to understand more about Thai culture and the daughter's role within the family. Having a basic understanding of Thai culture in general can only benefit the relationship that you have with your Thai girlfriend, and we would certainly recommend doing some research in order to better understand Thailand culture and customs if you are dating a Thai lady.

Where does your Thai girlfriend come from?

We think it's safe to assume that your Thai girlfriend comes from Thailand. However, Thailand is a big place and things can vary somewhat depending upon the region. Many Thai women that date foreigners come from the North East of Thailand in an area known as Isan. Isan comprises of several different provinces which are largely comprised of rural farming communities.

Often is the case that Thai people from rural areas will travel to large cities (such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, or Chiang Mai) in order to look for work; they will then be responsible for sending money back to their families in the village. Grandparents will often take care of their grandchildren while the child's parents work away in a city. If your girlfriend is in a situation similar to this then you must appreciate her obligation to look after her parents (and/or other family members) by sending money to them on a regular basis.

If your girlfriend's family are based in a more metropolitan area (rather than a rural village which is surrounded by rice fields), then there will be a greater likelihood of them working or being able to earn money.

Are Thai girlfriends expensive?

The answer to this question can vary hugely depending on the circumstances. Again, if your Thai girlfriend is from a wealthy family or has a stable career, then she may not need any support from you. In order to answer this question you should really take a close look at your girlfriend, her lifestyle, and any financial obligations that she has.

Asian lady with a confused expression on her face

If your girlfriend is responsible for supporting her parents or family members that live in rural areas, for example; then the costs associated with living in a rural area are usually quite low, and supporting her family might be relatively cheap in monetary terms.

If your girlfriend is accustomed to an affluent lifestyle on the other hand, and rents a high end condo or house in the city, enjoys eating at nice restaurants, shopping for brand name clothing, perhaps she also has car payments to make, for example; then a main financial burden for you could be subsidising her lifestyle.

How much does she earn? What are her approximate outgoings? These are the type of questions that you need to answer in order to understand whether your girlfriend is likely to be expensive. Due to the Thai concept of 'saving face', it is unlikely that any Thai person will be candid about their financial situation. Don't expect to be able to answer questions such as these by speaking to a lady over the internet, we suggest meeting her and witnessing her lifestyle first hand in order to gauge it for yourself. Or, we could check her lifestyle by conducting an investigation.

Your Thai girlfriend's role within her family

Pensions for the elderly are often very meager (or non-existent) in Thailand, and so it is not uncommon for children to support their parents into their old age. In traditional Thai culture this obligation often falls upon the daughter of the family; while sons are left to provide for their own partner/children (and their partner's parents, if necessary), the daughter will need to send money in order to take care of her elderly parents. 

Of course, this is not always the case, and sometimes sons will be tasked with supporting their parents instead; however, traditionally the obligation is passed onto the daughter of the family.

If your Thai girlfriend is responsible for supporting her parents or other family members then this burden will ultimately be shared with yourself if you decide to date her or get married.

Is there a large age gap between you and your Thai girlfriend?

If there is a large age gap between you and your Thai girlfriend, then the likelihood that she will expect a cash allowance or lavish gifts is probably going to be increased. Indeed, many ladies prefer mature men as they are thought to be more financially well off and more capable of supporting the lady monetarily.

How much money do I need to give my Thai girlfriend?

Again, the answer to this question is hugely subjective depending on the lady's circumstances. There are cases where ladies do not need any money from their foreign boyfriends or partners. In other cases we have heard of men that send 20,000 THB per month, or 25,000, or 30,000, even 50,000 THB or more. It all depends on yourself, your partner's needs, and how deep your pockets are.

A lady clutching dollar bills

We also see many cases where a lady will claim "not to need any money" from her foreign boyfriend for many months or even years until a large expense needs to be paid for. Many ladies appreciate that foreign men are not keen on sending money to them, and will deliberately not ask for money or talk about money at all for a prolonged period - even if the lady is in dire need of cash in some cases.

Again, the Thai concept of 'saving face' is relevant... Asking for cash may not be perceived as a good trait and some ladies will avoid asking for money in order to build up a serious romantic relationship where money will inevitably become involved at some stage.

Are you her boyfriend or are you her customer?

According to statistics published by Wikipedia, at its peak there are 27,000 active prostitutes working in Pattaya city alone. If you find yourself involved with one of these ladies, then you might find a fine line between dating her and simply being her customer.

This is often a line which can get blurred if you are paying for a lady to spend time with you; the so-called 'girlfriend experience' is designed to blur this line and make you feel although you are in a romantic relationship with the lady. You may indeed be in a romantic relationship with the lady, but in a role as her customer rather than as her boyfriend.

Many of the ladies that work in Thailand's notorious adult entertainment industry use internet dating apps to search for serious romantic relationships. Often these ladies will claim to have legitimate jobs in order for the guys they are speaking with to consider having a serious relationship with them. They can pose wearing uniforms for supermarkets or restaurants, for example, and most men will never question their stories - especially if they have never previously visited Thailand. You may think that 'it could never happen to you', however we have seen numerous cases where our clients had the same belief, and would never have discovered the truth had they not decided to start an investigation.

Is your Thai girlfriend being honest with you?

Finding out about the true financial situation of someone can be difficult. Sometimes couples that are together for years or even decades will conceal financial matters from each other. Due to the Thai concept of saving face, your Thai girlfriend might be more likely to tell you things which she believes will make her seem more desirable to you - and this can make it very difficult to uncover the truth in many cases.

Thai girlfriend works at a bar

We deal with many cases where our clients date Thai ladies that works in bars; whether that is a beer bar, go-go bar, nightclub, gentleman's club, or in any similar type establishment.

Usually when the lady is working at a bar, her boyfriend will provide her with a monthly allowance. In return the lady 'will not leave the bar with other customers', and will 'only earn money through tips or lady drinks'. The lady will usually call her boyfriend at the same time every night in order to prove that she has not left the bar with a customer...

We usually find that the reality of the situation is much different. In the majority of cases the lady will continue to leave her bar and travel with customers to their hotel rooms. She will indeed call her boyfriend at the same time every night, however she might be calling from the toilet or balcony of her client's hotel room; in other cases bar girls will call their boyfriends in front of customers who tend to find the situation amusing.

People drinking in a bar underneath red and blue lights

If you found a Thai lady through internet dating and have never actually met her in real life, then if the lady is working in a bar she will typically claim to have a normal job working in a supermarket or restaurant, for example. Finding the truth of the situation even if you decide to later visit Thailand can often prove to be difficult or impossible.

In such cases we can help our clients to check their Thai girlfriends by conducting an investigation.

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If you decide to support your Thai girlfriend by sending her gifts or a monthly allowance, then we think it makes sense to check her circumstances in order to protect your investment and make sure that you aren't being played.

We can use a variety of different techniques during Thai lady investigations, from running a background check or using surveillance in order to verify the lady's circumstances and lifestyle. Our services often save our clients far more than they would have otherwise spent in supporting their Thai girlfriend for even a short period of time.

Please visit the Bangkok Investigators homepage to learn more about us and the different services that we offer.


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