If you've spent much time in Thailand you will quickly realize that virtually everyone has a nickname, which they use exclusively instead of the name that is listed on their birth certificate. Even in formal settings such as the workplace, you will find many Thai people going by their nicknames.
The practice of using nicknames in Thailand is a cultural tradition which dates back to the Sukhothai era, where babies were commonly named according to their birth order. Nicknames evolved into describing a baby's appearance, for example, short, long, thin, fat, dark skinned or light skinned.
The use of nicknames in Thailand was also seen as a defense from malevolent spirits who might want to steal a baby or interfere with its life. It was thought that using two names would help to ward off these spirits. Giving a child an undesirable name, such as "pig", "fat" or "dog", was also believed to discourage nefarious spirits from wanting the child.
By 1919 Thai law required the use of surnames, mainly for identification purposes. Curiously, no two families in Thailand are allowed to share the same surname. This means that any two people with the same surname must be related in some way.
In modern times, some Thais believe that using nicknames makes them harder to track by the authorities or people looking to cause them harm. In some ways this is true, private investigators do need to uncover a person's real name in order to track them through paperwork, as nicknames are not recorded officially... At least not at the time of writing.
Someone recently asked me “How can I tell if a Thai woman is lying to me?”... It’s a good question which we will touch on in this blog post.
As a leading detective agency based in Bangkok, we have exposed many ladies that were lying to their foreign boyfriends. These women come from all walks of life and met their boyfriends under all manner of different circumstances.
Did your Thai girlfriend claim to love you within days of having met you? This type of mock sincerity could be a sign that she is lying to you and perhaps more interested in your wallet than your heart and good nature.
Another warning sign involves cellphones. Does your girlfriend hide her cellphone screen? Are there things on her cellphone that she doesn’t want you to see? You should be deeply worried if this is the case. Think about it: What legitimate reason could she have to conceal her phone activity? Maybe she’s speaking to other men that she doesn’t want you to know about.
If your girlfriend is rushing off to the toilet or balcony to speak on her phone, this should also act as a massive red flag, whatever excuses you’re being told.
Men with partners in Thailand would be wise to examine the financial state of their partners in figuring out how truthful they are being. Is your girlfriend living within her means? If your partner has no means of income but is somehow going out to eat and drink very often, it would be wise to question how she can afford such a lifestyle. Ladies that are earning a basic minimum wage should not have a lavish lifestyle. How much is her rent and utility bills every month? Do the numbers add up? Of course, if your partner is trying to encourage you to send money, she might be painting a different picture entirely.
If you’re looking for information or advice about your girlfriend in Thailand, no article or blog post can give information specific to your situation, and everyone’s circumstances are different. There are a lot of honest people in Thailand, but on the dating scene for Western men, there are often a lot of pitfalls and nefarious ladies looking to take advantage.
The simple fact is this: Some Thai ladies aim to have multiple boyfriends sending them money at the same time. Other women continue to work as prostitutes while their partner lives in another country and is completely unaware. If you are involved with one of these women, you’re effectively hooked up with a professional liar. These women hone their skills over many years. They’ve had dozens of previous foreign boyfriends and they know what men are likely to believe. They know exactly what excuses you’re likely to fall for and how to make lies sound convincing. It will be very hard to use free advice from the internet to assess whether or not your girlfriend is lying to you under these circumstances.
Don’t think that it can’t happen to you. It does happen to hundreds of men and as they say “a sucker is born every minute”. If you truly want to find out the truth about a Thai woman the only way to do this is to hire a private investigator. We work across Thailand, our rates are reasonable and we offer free quotes for all work. If you’re sending money to a Thai woman then we can often save you thousands by exposing lies told by your partner. Get in touch with us today and see how we can help you.
Bangkok is the capital of Thailand and one of the most visited cities in the world. A colorful city with wild nightlife, we ask why is there so many prostitutes in Bangkok. We’re written a short list below with some of our thoughts on this subject.
1. Poor wages
As a developing country, the minimum wage in Thailand is relatively low at around 300 THB per day at the time of writing. Of course, Thai people are able to earn much larger salaries if they have been to university and are skilled in a certain field. Many of the women that turn to prostitution already have children to support from previous marriages. Often in Thai culture the daughter of the family is expected to support her parents and children with money, these family obligations can add to a lady’s financial problems. If you’ve got an uneducated Thai lady, money earned through working at a bar would likely pay more than an unskilled job at a factory, for example. Prostitution undoubtedly provides substantial incomes to some young women that have few other marketable skills. The financial rewards of sex work can prove tempting for many women.
2. Demand for prostitution
Many of the regular visitors to Thailand pay money into the Thai sex industry and fuel its demand. Not all tourists visiting Thailand are coming for the night life; many are visiting for the breath taking beaches and for Thailand’s unique foods… However it can’t be denied that men of all ages visiting Thailand do engage with the sex industry whilst here. Often these men might go on to form relationships with bar girls or other women met during their time here. Some of these men might build huge houses in their partner’s village back in Isaan or buy expensive vehicles. Women living in rural Thai villages might see these trappings of wealth and feel encouraged to follow a similar path. With hoards of foreign sex tourists incessantly contributing to the seedy nighttime economy, demand fuels the supply for this part of the Thai economy.
3. Some women enjoy the lifestyle
Prostitution is completely illegal in Thailand (as of 2019), however it goes on everywhere and is regarded as an open secret. Estimates for the amount of prostitutes in Thailand vary hugely (from 800,000 to over 2 million people) and it’s very difficult to generalize motives for this amount of people. We can say that some of the sex workers are likely being pushed into their occupations by economic conditions or motivated by poverty. However, some women do enjoy their jobs. Some ladies get a kick out of drinking alcohol every night or sliding up and down a pole in an agogo bar… There’s the potential for them to have big paydays meeting with foreign customers, and it might be more enjoyable than other unskilled minimum wage work in factory production lines or stacking shelves at the local supermarket.
Missing people investigations is one of the hardest types of investigation that we carry out in Bangkok. Trying to find a missing person in Thailand can be like searching for a moving needle in a haystack at the best of times.
Unlike other countries, very little information about residents is made public in Thailand. Much of the information held by the Thai government is localized and in the form of paper records. This makes searching people down through the internet very difficult or impossible if the person is not active on social media.
At the time of writing it’s not possible to do a Thai online people search as this type of data isn’t make public or listed on the internet in Thailand.
When searching for missing people in Bangkok we need to study all of the information which is available to us and look for potential leads. This is why when you’re making an inquiry with us related to a missing person case, we will need as much information from you as possible in order to assess the situation and see if we’re able to help you.
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We need to consider the viability of information held when looking into missing persons cases. This is effectively the difference between getting a positive result in a missing persons case and getting nowhere.
We would like to wish all of our customers past and present a very happy Songkran for 2019!
We are still working through April so feel free to get in touch with us during the holiday period if you need our help. We are a leading detective agency based in Bangkok city but also covering other areas of Thailand. Please get in contact with us if you need help to investigate a cheating Thai lady, cheating foreign husband, to find a missing person, or launch a business investigation. We are standing by and ready to help!
If you're looking to break up with your Thai girlfriend or wife, we advise you to be careful on how you do it. If you're supporting her with money then by ending your relationship you will also be hurting her pocketbook, and this can escalate the damage caused by a breakup even further.
It’s important when breaking up with a Thai woman that you don’t try to humiliate her in front of other people. Causing a Thai lady to lose face can be dangerous at the best of times; embarrassing her in front of her peers when calling an end to your relationship might just tip her over the edge and put you in danger.
When breaking up with a Thai lady, we recommend enlisting the help of an impartial third party to help mediate between you and keep things calm. This could be a mutual friend or associate acting as a voice of reason.
On the legal side of things it might prove wise to seek advice from a qualified lawyer to see where you stand. Even if you aren’t legally married in Thailand, we have seen cases in the past where a “de facto” marriage has been ruled and assets awarded based on this. Breaking up can be a complicated affair and you will need to seek legal counsel for advice pertaining to your situation.
As a leading detective agency based in Bangkok, we have seen breakups between our clients and their spouses time and time again. We always advise people to be careful when ending relationships with their partners, especially if you’re confronting them with hard evidence that has been collected by us.
Some Thai ladies are very amicable and you’ll be able to walk away from them without a problem. Others might react badly, even resorting to violence. Always be considerate of your partner’s emotions when breaking up. Avoid heated arguments by walking away from the situation and giving yourself a break. You will never win an argument with a Thai woman no matter how hard you try or how loud you shout.
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If you’re not sure that your Thai girlfriend is being loyal to you, we can help and find out. Get in contact with us for a free, no obligation quote.
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