August 25, 2023 - Reading time: 12 minutes
Updated: August 20, 2024

The process of getting married in Thailand as a foreigner is relatively straightforward, provided you have conducted some research in order to understand the necessary steps. While some may choose to hire an agency to help with the process of running around and collecting the necessary documents, getting married in Thailand can be done yourself, 'DIY' style and without the need for paid help.

So, how is it possible to get married in Thailand as a foreigner? We will explore the necessary steps in this article.

1. Obtain an 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document

In order to get married in Thailand, foreigners require an 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document also known as 'an affirmation of martial status'; which is a document stating that you are currently unmarried in your home country, and are therefore free to get married in Thailand. This document can usually be obtained from a local registry office in your home country, or through your country's embassy in Thailand.

The process of obtaining a 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document will vary depending on which country you come from, and the requirements of your embassy (if you intend to obtain the certificate locally in Thailand). Check your embassy's website for information on their requirements and the process.

The 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' is not usually free, with most embassies charging around 3,500 THB for the service. The British embassy, for example, currently charges 2,860 THB. 

Note: You will also require a certified copy of your passport from your embassy, which will also need to be translated into Thai.

2. Have your documents translated 

Once a 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document has been obtained from your embassy, it will need to be translated into Thai by a reputable translation company, along with the certified copy of your passport. 

If you obtained your freedom to marry certificate in Bangkok, then most embassies tend to be in the Wireless Road area; and you can find translation shops within walking distance. There are translation shops inside Mahatun Plaza which is near by, for example.

OR you could choose to have your documents translated at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs instead, however this option might be more costly.

3. Authenticate your translations

Once your freedom to marry document and your certified passport copy have been translated, they will then need to be authenticated by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.

Department of Consular Affairs

The Legalisation Division

123 Chaeng Wattana Road, Laksi District, Bangkok 10210

Phone: 02 575 1056 59,  02 981 7171

Once you're at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, take the escalator up to the third floor, turn right and walk up the stairs. Then go to the desk straight in-front of you and hand in your affirmation to marry document, its translation, along with your passport copy and passport translation.

Be aware that the staff take a lunch break at 12PM and return at 13:00. You will need to collect a ticket with a queue number and wait for your number to be called. If you arrive shortly before lunch then you might need to return after lunch at 13:00.

4. Register your marriage

Once you have your authenticated 'affirmation of freedom to marry' document along with a translated copy of your passport, you will then be ready to collect the other necessary documents and register your marriage at a district office.

In order to register a marriage, the following documents will typically be required:

• Your passport/visa with two copies of each
• Your fiancee's ID card (for Thai citizens) with two copies
• The Letter of Affirmation of Freedom to Marry (the original plus the translation with copies of both)
• The translation of your passport stamped by the MFA
• Your fiancee's Tabien Baan (house book) (for Thai citizens) along with two copies
• Two witnesses will be required. Rules can vary depending on which district office you use - so call your local district office and ask about their requirements. It could be helpful to bring a couple of Thai friends with you, or family members in some cases. If you decided to hire an agent then your agent might act as your witness instead.

5. Translating a copy of your marriage certificate

Once your marriage is complete, you will typically be issued with two marriage certificates. The certificates themselves are written in Thai script and feature a border of roses.

If you are a foreigner, then you might find it useful to obtain a certified translation of your marriage certificate in your country's native language. The translated certificate might come in handy should your partner decide to apply for a Western visa in the future, or, if you have a child with your partner then a translated marriage certificate may help in order to apply for your child's first passport.

Of course, if you just intend to use the marriage certificate for official purposes within Thailand (such as applying for a Thai marriage visa), then just the Thai language certificate itself should suffice.

Where can I get married in Thailand?

You will need to register your marriage at the nearest available district office. In Bangkok, you can choose between the district offices in Lak Si, Bangrak or Huay Kwang. These offices may require appointments to be made in advance, it is therefore advisable to call them beforehand in order to check this and their requirements/waiting times. Different district offices may also have different requirements regarding witnesses; getting in touch with your office of choice directly is your best bet when it comes to finding the most up-to-date info.

List of district offices in Bangkok

Lak Si District Office

999 Chang Watthana 10 Alley, Thung Song Hong, Lak Si, Bangkok 10210

Phone: 02 982 2081

Bang Rak District Office

5 Naret Rd, Si Phraya, Bang Rak, Bangkok 10500

Phone: 02 236 1395

Huai Khwang District Office

2 Pracha Uthit Rd, Huai Khwang, Bangkok 10310

Phone: 02 277 9100

If your partner is from a rural area or a small town, then you might find there to be shorter waiting times at the district office in their hometown, rather than in a city such as Bangkok... It would be a good idea to call your local district office and check with them regarding the waiting times and their requirements before deciding how to proceed.

Is it possible to get married in Thailand in one day?

Yes, it certainly could be possible to complete this process and get married in one day; however, whether or not this will be possible will depend on how busy the relevant offices are and how soon they are able to process you.

Are background checks necessary before getting married in Thailand?

A news article published in 2018 (source) claims that foreigners seeking to marry Thais may now be subject to criminal background screening. However, whether or not you will be subject to a background check may vary depending on your local district office - we suggest contacting your local district office for up to date information on their requirements.

While it is not compulsory, private investigators in Thailand can help to perform a premarital background check on your partner. We can check a number of different factors relating to your partner, which can help allow you to make an informed decision before taking the step of getting married. Premarital background checks have the potential to help mitigate the risk of financial loss through romance scams; they can also allow you to fully understand your partner's history and life before taking the step of getting married to them. 

If you are interested in running a premarital background check on your partner, then free to get in touch with us for a free quote.

What is a Thai village wedding?

A 'Thai village wedding' is a traditional Thai wedding ceremony which takes place in towns or villages of Thailand. The event is taken seriously and usually attended by friends, family, along with local monks and village elders. The bride and groom dress in traditional Thai attire, with the ceremony lasting all day and usually including a large feast for all attendees.

While some people in Thailand may choose to mark their relationship with a village wedding, the wedding ceremony itself does not create a legally binding marriage unless it is followed up with a visit to the local district office in order to register the marriage.

If you are intending for your partner to obtain a Western visa in future, then you may need to register your marriage in a district office rather than purely holding a 'village wedding' ceremony. 

Are pre-matrimonial background checks common in Thailand? 

As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we find that more and more of our clients are choosing to perform premarital background checks on their partners before taking the step of getting married. Clients that have previously fallen victim to infidelity or romance scams tend to be especially diligent in future relationships; with many seeking peace of mind that everything is fully above board and that their partner is truly being honest with them about their circumstances.

With money and finances an increasing part of most marriages, performing checks on your partner can also help to safeguard any future investments that you might make during your relationship.

We are able to check a number of different factors relating to your partner in order to check their history. Romantic background checks can be used whether or not you are currently considering marriage.

Are prenuptial agreements necessary in Thailand?

Prenuptial agreements are not required, however they may be considered in order to safeguard assets during a potential breakdown of the marriage in future. Depending on your country of origin, it could be necessary to have two prenups in place for both your home country and Thailand. Prenups are not a 'be all and end all' solution to all cases, and it is important to understand their potential limitations if you decide to go down the path of asking your partner to sign one prior to marriage.

In Thailand, the default rule is that your partner could be entitled to 50% of anything which you acquired after getting married - assets which you already had prior to getting married are usually exempt.

If you need information on prenuptial agreements, or on any other matter, then it would be highly advisable to consult with a lawyer that specialises in the relevant field of law. The information provided on this website serves as a rough guide for general informational purposes and does not constitute legal advice.

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July 23, 2023 - Reading time: 8 minutes
Updated: June 6, 2024

As leading private detectives based in Thailand, we are frequently instructed by clients that have never previously hired a private detective before; and as such, we are frequently asked questions such as whether or not investigative services are in fact legal.

Yes, it is legal to hire a private investigator in Thailand. However, it is always advisable to use a well established and reputable firm in order to ensure high quality results. The detective agency should be a registered Thai company, with all fees paid into accounts held by that company. Accreditations and past experience should also be considered when choosing a detective agency.

Of course, it is possible to hire a private investigator in another country to carry out investigations within Thailand; in this situation the case will typically be outsourced to a local firm based in Thailand, with middle man fees added by the agency which manages the case.

We frequently provide updates to our clients during investigations in real time, and although we also work alongside other detective agencies around the world; we find it easier to communicate directly with our clients, rather than communicating through an intermediary based in the client's home country.

We offer free quotes for all work; if you require the services of a private detective based in Thailand then feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for help and advice.

What can private investigators in Thailand do?

Private investigators typically offer a number of different services for either private or corporate clients; our agency provides services to both sectors.

Personal surveillance service

Personal surveillance can be used in a number of different cases to check the lifestyle/activities of a subject. Surveillance is often used during infidelity investigations, for example, and is the most common method which can be used to catch acts of infidelity on camera.

Surveillance is often deployed in areas of Thailand such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, Chiang Mai; however we can also deploy surveillance teams in all areas of Thailand, subject to reimbursement for travel time and costs.

If you are interested in our surveillance service and would like a free quote, then please feel free to get in touch with us - we will need to know the locations of the case and any relevant details in order to understand your needs and requirements, please include this information when getting in touch with us.

Background check services

Due to the growing problem of romance scams, premarital background checks are an increasingly common method to check and verify facts relating to a Thai girlfriend or boyfriend before taking the step to get married or further progress a romance.

Background checks can also be used by employers to check candidates as part of preemployment background screening.

Checks can be used to verify any number of different factors relating to an individual; from basic information such as their date of birth or gender, to other checks such as employment history, marriage/divorce history, criminal record checks, family checks, and more.

We offer standard background check packages and can also offer customised packages depending on the needs and requirements of our client. Please feel free to contact us and tell us about your case to learn more about our background check service. We offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.

Missing people investigations

Searching for missing people can prove to be some of the most challenging and most rewarding cases that are handled by us.

In cases such as these, everything will depend on the information that our client is able to provide us with... Are there any locations which could be visited in order to conduct interviews with a view to locating the subject? Is any information available on the subject's current or past locations? What is the subject's nationality? Why specifically are you trying to get hold of them? For missing people investigations we will need as much background information as possible in order to assess the situation and provide a quote.

Corporate investigations 

We have years of experience in performing corporate investigations and due diligence within Thailand. Investigations on behalf of corporate clients often involve the acquisition and dissection of data which can be used to help them to make informed decisions, which will in turn allow them to save both time and money.

Shrewd businessperson understand that conducting due diligence in the form of relevant checks can help to mitigate their risk of financial loss... Investigations of this nature can take many different paths, depending on the circumstances and the needs/requirements of our client.  

What can't private investigators do?

Phone hacking

"Can you hack into a phone? Can you hack into a social media account?" - Answer: No; absolutely not. We do not offer any form of hacking services as this would be against the law. 

In some cases we are able to utilise publicly available data in order to collect information on any certain individual... For example, in some cases we can use facial recognition checks to discover instances of a subject's face on the internet - we have previously found adult videos featuring subjects, as well as dating profiles and similar material. As these checks involve the acquisition of data which is already available in the public domain, it is effectively considered 'fair game' for a private investigator. 'Hacking' into private data on the other hand is not allowed under any circumstances.

Unethical surveillance practices

"Can you break into a hotel room and install a hidden camera so that you can record my partner cheating?" - Answer: No; absolutely not. Unauthorised surveillance of this nature is not allowed.

Requests for intrusive surveillance of this nature are all too common... Surveillance services which take place outside of a Hollywood movie set is always confined by rules, as well as numerous subjective elements which are often outside the control of surveillance agents. While it may be possible to gather evidence that your partner is cheating on you, the use of hidden cameras in this way is simply unacceptable.

Learn more about us

Please visit the Bangkok Investigators homepage for more information about us and the services that we offer.

February 22, 2023 - Reading time: 11 minutes
Updated: June 6, 2024

Ian, please post this story in your blog. I want other people to read about what happened so that they can learn from it and maybe it won't happen to them.

For the purpose of this story I will refer to the lady as 'Pim', but this is not her real name.

I originally found Pim on a dating site. I found her to be very attractive and we started talking. She told me that she was living on her parent's farm in a small town in Roi Et. She sent me lots of photos of her farm, her animals and the basic living conditions there. 

We started talking regularly through WhatsApp, we were talking all day every day for months. After 8 months of speaking to Pim I flew out to meet with her for the first time. We arranged to meet in Phuket where I had booked a resort near the beach in Patong.

I had an amazing time with Pim in Thailand, we visited the temple, we went on boat trips, ate at nice restaurants, everything was great and I became even more in love with her at this point. After 2 weeks it was my time to return home but I could not stop thinking about Pim and within a week I had paid for a second flight to Thailand, I was going to return after 6 months but stay in Thailand for 4 weeks this time.

During my second visit I wanted to visit Pim's farm in the countryside but she told me that I wouldn't like it up there and that we should stay in Phuket. Pim told me that she had never visited Phuket before going there to meet me during my first trip.

6 months quickly passed and I was back again in Thailand with Pim. This time I did not want to leave her and was making plans for a long term future with her. I had some money available from an inheritance and I figured out that if I sold all my assets back home in the States that I would be able to buy a business in Thailand and make a life out there.

During my second visit I took Pim to our favourite restaurant and proposed to her, which she accepted. Now things were really getting serious.

Knowing my plans, Pim told me that she had found a really good deal on a house for sale. The house itself was a bit of a wreck and needed some investment. The pool was leaking water, it needed various repairs and a coat of paint. The house was being advertised for 3.8 million baht, but Pim was able to negotiate it down to 3.5 million. I thought it was a good deal, especially compared to house prices in the states.

At the time of writing this article 3.5 million baht is approximately 100,000 US dollars. It is not a massive amount of money, but it is still a lot by most peoples’ standards. I wanted to view more properties but Pim persuaded me into this specific one, using many different reasoned arguments.

So I bought the house, and setup a Thai company which would be used to own it. Although I felt like I could trust Pim, I did not want to put the house in her name, and after reading horror stories online we setup a company of which I was able to own 49%.

After the vacation I went back home to liquidate my assets and Pim was tasked with making sure the house was renovated to a high standard. I sent her money on a regular basis, I sent her 14,000 dollars to fix the roof and repair the pool. I sent 6,000 more to repair the fence and driveway gate. There were many expenses involved with repairing the property. 

Things came to a head when Pim gave me a rough list of expenses and told me that she needed around 16,000 dollars to finish the house. This would include painting the walls and buying basic furniture and appliances. 

I sent over the money and then things went silent. I got no response from her on WhatsApp or Facebook, I called her and the calls would not connect. I became very worried that something might have happened to her, I thought maybe she was involved in an accident. I sent a friend over to the house to speak to her but when he arrived the house was empty.

I could not think straight and was constantly worried about the situation. I ended up taking time off work to fly back and find out what was happening. I got back to my house to find it was not as completed as I thought it was. Work has been done on the house but it was still a building site and nowhere near finished. There was no sign of Pim anywhere.

I started asking around. I visited the bars that I always drank at with Pim. I got speaking to the manager of a bar in Patong where we always would drink. The manager told me that Pim used to work at another bar on the strip, apparently Pim had been working in the bar for at least 2-3 years - this was all new to me. I thought that Pim had worked at a clothing store before meeting me, she never mentioned bar work.

Although the manager gave me some information on her past, no-one I spoke to knew where Pim was. It was like she had just vanished.

I spent more time in Patong alone and depressed, I started drinking heavily. I looked through the paperwork that I had brought relating to the purchase of my house. A business card fell out for the real estate agent that sold the house. On a whim I visited their office to see if they could help me find Pim.

Although the realtor only spoke with Pim while I was buying the house, she remembered it and described it as 'the blue corner house for 1.6 million'. I showed her photos of the house on my phone and she repeated, 'yes, I remember. That blue corner house we sold for 1.6 million'.

You will probably read this story and think that it is ridiculous and that it could never happen to you. I wouldn't class myself as an idiot either, but it quickly transpired that Pim had sold me a house which cost 1.6 million for 3.5 million and simply put the difference in her own pocket.

The process of buying a house involved what seemed like thousands of pieces of paper, and Pim had dealt with most of it. She had somehow inflated the price that I paid. She then took even more funds which were supposed to be used to renovate the house. I was expecting the house to be almost finished, but when I arrived it was still in a total state of disrepair. Plus, Pim owned a large percentage of the holding company which owned the house.

The truth was starting to dawn on me and I broke down in the real estate office. While going through my paperwork with them, they pointed out that I had a copy of Pim's ID card, which featured an address for a small town in Roi Et. 

I needed answers at this point and took a flight from Phuket to Bangkok. In Bangkok I rented a car and drove myself to her village. The drive took me 7 hours. She was living in the middle of nowhere and surrounded by rice fields. Finding her village was very difficult and it took hours to locate her.

I showed local people in the village photos of Pim on my phone and they told me with broken English that Pim lives in 'that house' with a farang.They pointed to a very large 4-5 bedroom house that was painted white. I should point out that ''farang'' means a foreign man, usually a white guy. They were reluctant to give me any information and I could tell that they were gossiping amongst themselves as the 'translator' tried to communicate in broken English.

The house that she supposedly lived at was protected by a gate/fence all around it. I could see most of the driveway from the roadside as the house sat on top of a hill. I decided to just see what was happening and sat outside the house in my rented car.

After 40 minutes of sitting outside this house in the middle of nowhere, my heart sank as I saw Pim walking outside the house and onto the driveway. It was definitely her, I recognized her hair, clothes, everything. Shortly after she left I saw a white man follow her out of the door and two young children. They walked around the garden together watering plants.

At this moment the gravity of the situation hit me like a brick in the face. I just couldn’t believe that I had been conned in this way. All along she had been living with a different man and raising his kids.

This is probably very anticlimactic, but I decided not to confront them and just drove away. I am not a confrontational guy and did not want to create a big situation in front of her kids. I don't know whether the other guy knew that I had been conned but by this stage I didn't care either. Maybe I am not the only boyfriend, maybe her husband just sits back while Pim earns money by conning guys out of cash. I don't know and will probably never know the truth. 

After this I sought legal advice and the long and short of it is that it's going to be a very long road to try to recover my money and get out of the situation that I'm in. My lawyer said that it will take years and might not go anywhere, of course I will still need to pay the legal bills whatever happens with my case. 

I will admit that I was a fool, and while all Thai women are not bad I will certainly be more cautious in the future. When my relationship becomes more serious I will definitely have you run a background check on my girlfriend before money enters the equation. 

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February 6, 2023 - Reading time: 10 minutes
Updated: June 3, 2025

When reading online, you'll come across numerous stories of foreign men forming romantic relationships with Thai bar girls. The advice, more often than not, is to "steer clear" — and with good reason. Entering a relationship with someone working in a red-light district anywhere in the world is, for most people, considered a questionable decision.

However, many foreign men do enter into relationships with Thai bar girls, and some even marry them and go on to lead happy lives together. So, what differentiates a long, happy relationship from a short-lived, disastrous one? The truth is, each relationship is shaped by a variety of unique factors. In this article, we’ll explore some of the more common circumstances we've witnessed.

What is a Thai Bar Girl?

First, it’s important to understand the role of a "bar girl" in Southeast Asia. A bar girl is a woman who works in entertainment venues, responsible for socializing with and entertaining clients — both within the bar and outside of it.

Bar girls earn a commission each time a customer buys them a drink. If a customer decides to take the woman out of the bar, they pay a "bar fine" to compensate the bar for losing a staff member. The woman typically receives a portion of this fine, in addition to money paid by the customer for her time.

Bar girls can be found in most of Thailand's red-light districts, including beer bars, go-go bars, gentlemen's clubs, discos, nightclubs, karaoke bars, and more.

Allowing Your Thai Girlfriend to Work in a Bar

Some men, early on in their relationships with Thai bar girls, choose to allow their girlfriend to continue working in the bar — either accepting the fact that she will still engage with customers or hoping it won’t affect their relationship. If the man isn’t ready to financially support her by sending money, this arrangement can take several forms.

The most common approach is a "don’t ask, don’t tell" policy, where the lady continues her work with clients without informing her boyfriend of the details. Some women may choose to be more transparent, updating their boyfriend every time they see a new client.

By far, the most common scenario involves the lady telling her boyfriend, "I will keep working in the bar but I will never go with customers. I’ll make money from drinks and tips, but I won’t leave with anyone." The reality, however, often differs. In our investigations, we frequently discover that the lady is still “on the game” — still available for the right price, despite her assurances. This is to be expected, given the nature of the job, where the primary goal for many women is to earn as much as they can for themselves and their families.

Surprisingly, many men continue to believe their girlfriend's assurances that she doesn’t leave the bar with customers. In our experience, eight out of ten women in such situations are still working as bar girls in some capacity.

If a bar girl claims she doesn’t leave the bar, she might promise her boyfriend, "I’ll call you at the same time every night to prove I’m in my own room." While this can give the boyfriend a false sense of security, it doesn’t stop the lady from participating in short-term arrangements. She may also tell a customer that she needs to grab some clothes from her room before heading to his hotel. During the brief trip to her room, she might make a quick phone call to her boyfriend, saying she's feeling tired and can't talk for long. Afterward, the phone goes silent, and she returns to her customer. We’ve seen this happen numerous times.

Bar girls sometimes claim to work as cashiers or managers in the bar, or even say they’ve only just started working there. Other times, they’ll call their boyfriend in front of their customer, with some men even finding the situation amusing — and sharing it online.

The bottom line: if your girlfriend works at a bar in Thailand, you can never be sure if she will leave with a customer. If she’s attractive, there will likely be frequent offers from patrons. And it’s important to remember that each customer isn’t just a chance for her to earn money — it's also a potential opportunity to form a romantic relationship. This brings us to the next topic...

Do Thai Bar Girls Have Multiple Boyfriends at the Same Time?

A common question in online forums and social media groups is whether bar girls have multiple boyfriends at once. This is often referred to as "the bar girl scam."

Bar girls meet numerous men every day or week. If a woman is young and attractive, many men may be interested in her, whether for a brief "pay-for-play" encounter or a serious romantic relationship.

The rise of online dating apps and websites has made it even easier for bar girls to connect with men from all over the world. Rarely do these women admit to their job, even when meeting men online. In some cases, they might visit a friend’s café to take a few photos in a friend's uniform. Many men who meet these women online have no reason to question her claim of working a regular job, especially when photos support her story.

Given that bar girls interact with multiple men, there’s always a chance that they could develop relationships with more than one person. Some men might send her regular money, others send occasional gifts, while some might not contribute at all, only spending money when visiting Thailand. Regardless, romance scams can be very profitable for bar girls, especially if they are attractive and in demand.

Taking Your Thai Girlfriend Out of the Bar

Taking a bar girl out of the bar can be a complicated situation. If you’re not willing to financially support her, she may continue working in the bar and leaving with customers, even if she insists otherwise. Eventually, she may meet a man who is willing to spend money to support her and stop her from working in the bar. This can be the "endgame" for some bar girls.

On the flip side, if you choose to send money to your girlfriend so she can stop working in the bar, you could be at risk of being scammed.

Many men believe their situation is different, saying, "I’ve heard the horror stories, but this girl is different; she’s not like the others." The reality is that most bar girls are in similar circumstances. Some might stop working in the bar after receiving financial support, but many continue working in the bar or find more discreet ways to earn money, such as freelancing or using dating apps. Will she be happy with the financial support of one man, or will she seek to earn more? Some choose the latter.

Unless you're ready to commit to paying her a regular allowance or purchasing a business for her, you won’t know if she’s genuine or just looking for a quick payout. It can take months or even years for her true intentions to reveal themselves. In some long-term scams, it can take years for the truth to surface.

We believe that when money is involved in a relationship, it’s wise to perform due diligence to ensure you’re not being taken advantage of.

Check Your Thai Girlfriend

As a leading detective agency in Thailand, we can help investigate your partner using various investigative techniques. Visit our website to learn more about our services, or reach out to one of our experienced team members for a free quote.

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