Can You Really Trust Your Thai Girlfriend? Warning Signs to Know

August 25, 2021 - Reading time: 7 minutes
Updated: March 3, 2025

Many Thai women are honest and trustworthy; however, when searching for a Thai partner, you need to look in the right places and recognise red flags that might indicate she is not who she claims to be. Can you trust your Thai girlfriend? The answer depends on several factors, which we’ll explore in this article.

Professional romance scammers are experts at gaining a foreigner’s trust. A typical Thai romance scam often involves a woman maintaining relationships with multiple foreign boyfriends—each of whom believes he is her only partner. When this scam succeeds, the woman involved can earn substantial amounts of money.

Many men think, “It could never happen to me.” But this mindset is exactly why romance scams continue to thrive, often going unnoticed until it's too late.

Thai Girlfriend from Internet Dating

A person using a chat application on a cell phone

If you met your Thai girlfriend through an internet dating site or app, judging her trustworthiness can be difficult. Thai women can easily fabricate stories about their lives. If you haven’t met her in person, verifying her claims is nearly impossible unless you hire a private investigator.

A large proportion of romance scams we investigate originate from online dating.

Thai Girlfriend Working in a Bar

Bars in a red light area of Thailand

If your Thai girlfriend works in a beer bar, go-go bar, or club, then you cannot trust her, period. Women working in these venues typically earn money by leaving with customers.

If she claims to work as a cashier or says she “doesn’t go with customers,” there’s a high chance she is lying. Our investigations have repeatedly shown that most bar girls are happy to leave with paying customers despite what they tell their boyfriends.

Thai Girlfriend Lives in Pattaya

The sign for Pattaya Thailand illuminated at night

If your Thai girlfriend lives in Pattaya, be cautious. The city is infamous for its nightlife and sex industry, with an estimated 27,000 prostitutes working in the area.

Even if your girlfriend does not work in a bar, go-go or massage parlour, she could still meet men by ‘freelancing’ in popular nightclubs or bars. Many women working regular jobs in Pattaya supplement their income by freelancing in the evenings and weekends.

Be cautious if your girlfriend lives in other tourist areas such as Phuket, where the sex industry is prevalent. While locations like Bangkok or Chiang Mai also have nightlife scenes, prostitution isn’t as widespread in those areas as it is in Pattaya or Phuket.

Thai Girlfriend Has Tattoos or Smokes Cigarettes

Thai woman with tattoos on her back and arm

While having tattoos or smoking cigarettes might not raise an eyebrow in many Western countries, these traits can indicate a history in the sex industry in Thailand. For more details, see our article on Signs that she is not a good Thai girl.

Thai Girlfriend Works at a Massage Parlour

A person receiving a Thai massage

Thai massage is world-famous, but in Thailand, many massage parlours are not what they seem. Traditional massage shops can be legitimate, but less formal establishments may offer “extra” services.

If your girlfriend works at a traditional massage parlour, she may have received proper training. However, more casual settings could indicate potential involvement in the sex trade.

Thai Girlfriend Attends University

A Thai university student

If your Thai girlfriend claims to attend university, this is generally a good sign of her ambition and stability. However, always question how she can afford tuition—if her family lives in modest conditions, this could raise some red flags.

We have encountered cases where women falsely claim to be students by posing for photos on university campuses while working in red-light districts.

How We Can Help: Verifying Trustworthiness

If you're unsure about whether to trust your Thai girlfriend, Bangkok Investigators offers several services to help you uncover the truth.

Background Check Services
We can provide a thorough background check on your Thai girlfriend. This can include researching her marriage and divorce history, her family background, employment records, and lifestyle. Our comprehensive reports can help you gain clarity and peace of mind.

Surveillance Services
If you suspect that your girlfriend may be cheating on you or acting dishonestly, we can place her under surveillance. Our agents will follow her and document her actions with photos and videos, providing you with concrete evidence. The cost for surveillance depends on the location of the case. For a free quote, simply contact us with details about where she lives and works, and we will provide you with an accurate estimate.

Decoy Service
If your girlfriend works in a bar or similar environment, we can send one of our agents undercover to interact with her directly. Our agent will observe how she responds to advances from other men, helping us determine whether her intentions are genuine. This method is highly effective in revealing hidden truths.

Free Quotes & Confidentiality
At Bangkok Investigators, we offer free, no-obligation quotes for all of our services. We understand the importance of privacy, and all information is kept strictly confidential. You can contact us through our contact page to discuss your situation and learn how we can help.

For more information about our services, please visit our homepage at Bangkok Investigators .com.

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