Why is my Thai girlfriend ignoring me?
September 9, 2023 - Reading time: 7 minutes
Updated: August 20, 2024
1. Your girlfriend could be cheating on you
As leading private investigators in Thailand, we often investigate infidelity on behalf of our clients... For guys that do not live in Thailand, but are currently in a relationship with a Thai lady that does, one recurring sign of infidelity is being ignored or receiving the silent treatment.
If your Thai girlfriend regularly stops making contact with you for prolonged periods of time, this could act as a sign that she is around someone else that she doesn't want you to know about. Similarly, if she usually makes voice or video calls to you, but suddenly prefers to send messages, this could also indicate the presence of another man in her life.
Of course, if your girlfriend is cheating on you then she will probably take the time to figure out excuses to explain her being unavailable. Figuring out what is truly going on can be very difficult, especially if you are thousands of kilometres away in a different country.
Other signs of infidelity include: Does she hide her phone screen when you are around, so that you can't see her messages? Is she secretive with her phone? Does she have multiple Facebook accounts? Is she reluctant to change her relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship with [your name]'?
If you suspect that your girlfriend could be cheating on you, then our experienced private detectives can help to check her lifestyle and activities by placing her under surveillance.
2. She is bored
If your girlfriend is ignoring you or begins to seem despondent, then perhaps she could be bored of your relationship or what you are able to offer her in the long term. If the lady has deemed that your relationship is not serious or that it does not have a long term future, then she might start to look for alternative partners.
Some Thai ladies do not consider that a relationship is serious until the knot has been tied through marriage; if a lady takes this stance then she may continue to 'see what is on offer' by communicating with multiple different guys until she has an offer to settle down and get married.
Bear in mind that attractive Thai ladies can receive a lot of interest from Western guys if they decide to signup for dating websites or apps... If the lady is good looking and has a nice figure, then she can expect to receive a lot of messages from interested guys.
3. There are hidden elements to her life
It's easy to believe that it 'could never happen to you', but as a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we regularly deal with cases where our clients struggle to believe the truth and reality surrounding their relationships and partners... Often is the case that our client would never discover the truth about their partner had they not hired us to conduct an investigation.
If your girlfriend does not respond to you for prolonged periods of time, then this could indicate that there is another aspect to her life that you are not currently aware of... Perhaps she is being dishonest about her place of work or family arrangements - or there could be other people in her life that you are simply unaware of.
4. She is looking something else
If your girlfriend does not have the time to respond to you, then perhaps she could be looking for something else in your relationship. It is no secret that many ladies from south east Asia will seek out Western guys to form romantic relationships, as their perception is that white guys have plenty of money and are able to support them financially... Does your girlfriend (or her family) have an urgent need for money?
Due to the Thai concept of saving face, it is common for ladies to sometimes 'sugarcoat' the truth. If, for example, your girlfriend's family is currently in a substantial amount of debt with interest payments due every few months, then she might not choose to be upfront and honest with you about that. Instead, she might claim to have a big unexpected expense every few months that she needs help with, such as a medical bill.
If your girlfriend comes from a family of rice farmers, then she might also be responsible for expenses associated with her family's farm, such as buying fertiliser/pesticides and the costs associated with planting/harvesting rice fields.
In order to understand your partner's motivations, it's important to fully understand her circumstances - and this might not be an easy task if she is not being candid with you about her situation. In many cases we can help to check and verify a lady's story by running a comprehensive background check on her.
5. She is punishing you
Have you upset your girlfriend by doing something wrong? Perhaps you were out of contact with her first or she saw you speaking to or contacting another woman? Your girlfriend could be giving you the silent treatment as punishment for your perceived misbehaviour or to teach you a lesson.
Of course, if your girlfriend does have a problem, then you should ask her to talk through the issue rather than ignoring you and leaving you to guess what the issue could be. After all, being able to communicate with your partner is usually key to having a long and happy relationship.
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Dos and Don'ts when dating a Thai lady
September 2, 2023 - Reading time: 9 minutes
Updated: August 20, 2024
For Western guys that start romantic relationships with Thai ladies, there are certain cultural differences which you might notice. Being aware of differences and performing some basic research on Thai culture can really help when it comes to maintaining a happy relationship with your partner. Let's explore some of the most common 'dos and don'ts' when it comes to dating a lady from Thailand...
1. Do: Respect her culture and traditions
If you are dating a lady from Thailand, and you come from a Western country yourself, then you might find that your partner holds certain beliefs - whether religious/spiritual or traditional, which you might not be familiar with... Personal beliefs and traditions can largely depend on which region of Thailand the lady comes from, as well as her family and upbringing.
Many people in Thailand believe in ghosts, for example, with storylines involving ghosts featuring in many popular Thai TV shows and movies. There is even a Wikipedia page which lists many of the different Thai ghosts; each ghost has its own name and description.
While you could spend a considerable amount of time researching Thai folklore, some things are best experienced first hand and with an open mind.
2: Do: Maintain a good relationship with her family
Family relations are very important to Thai ladies. Many elderly Thai people have little (or no) pensions and rely on the support from their children to get by... If your Thai girlfriend's family are not affluent, then it could be the case that she is responsible for helping to support them.
If you later decide to get married, then you might find your girlfriend's parents request a dowry or sin sod to be paid on the wedding day. Maintaining a good relationship with your girlfriend's parents and other close family members should be a priority if you intend to have a serious and long term relationship with her.
3: Do: Consider and plan for marriage
Marriage is very important to many Thai ladies, with some not considering a relationship to be serious until the knot has been tied. Marriage could also be seen as important to the lady's parents or close relatives - some people even believe that getting married will signal to the spirits and ghosts of their ancestors that a romantic relationship is bonified.
Marriage can also increase the lady's 'face' within her community, especially if a large dowry (or 'sin sod') is displayed to guests before being handed over to her parents during a lavish wedding ceremony.
If you are in a serious relationship then you should ask your partner whether marriage is something which is high up on their list of priorities, and if you are marrying a Thai lady then you might need to consider whether her family will require a dowry payment from you on your wedding day. If your partner's family are struggling financially then it is more likely that they might ask for a dowry and continued financial support in the future.
Did you know? We can help to perform a background check on your Thai partner whether or not you are currently considering marriage. Background checks can help to check and confirm details relating to your partner and their history. Our service is 100% private and confidential.
4. Do: Be polite and gentlemanly
Politeness is important in Thailand and good manners cost nothing. Most Thais will not be impressed by rude behaviour.
5. Do: Plan for the long term
Earning a living in Thailand can be difficult, especially if your partner does not have an education or a skill which is currently in demand; and securing a Western visa for your partner to come and live with you has grown increasingly difficult in recent years. Suffice it to say that if you are serious about maintaining a relationship with your partner, then you should consider each other's existing commitments and how you intend to live together long term. Planning for the future with your partner is also likely to be seen as a positive trait by them.
'Don'ts' when dating a Thai lady
Let's now explore some of the things to avoid. DON'T do the following when dating a Thai lady:
1. Don't: Cause your partner to lose face
The concept of 'losing face' is somewhat of a big deal in Thai culture. Effectively, Thai people do not like being made to look foolish or unfavourable in front of other people - as this will cause them to 'lose face'.
What does this mean in practice? Well, not to embarrass your Thai girlfriend in front of other people. In Western countries, for example, we can often get away with poking fun at our partners or making sarcastic comments about them in front of our friends or family, however in Thailand such comments have the potential to cause a lot of offence - so choose your words wisely.
2. Don't: Neglect your personal hygiene
Thailand is a hot country and most Thai people will shower or bathe multiple times per day in order to keep cool and maintain their personal hygiene. Cleanliness is very important to most Thai people and you are not likely to make friends with the smell of body odour.
Similarly, most Thai people tend to be quite clean and proud of their homes. It is not uncommon for the floor of a Thai household to be swept and cleaned every single day, and you might also be expected to help with housework.
3. Don't: Constantly pester her for sex
Most Thai women are modest, and widely cited studies claim that 60% of Thai ladies are virgins when they get married. Thai women are not likely to appreciate being constantly pestered for sex... If you are in a relationship with a Thai bar girl on the other hand, then that is of course another topic altogether.
4. Don't: Disrespect her culture or religious beliefs
If you choose to date a person from another country or culture, then you are likely to encounter some differences along the way. If you approach situations with an open mind, and accept your partner's beliefs along with their way of doing things, then there are not likely to be any rifts created between you.
If, on the other hand, you are the type of person that likes to constantly complain about Thailand, or mock your partner's religious or cultural traditions, then you might leave your partner questioning whether you are a good fit for them.
5. Don't: Make her choose between you and her family
As we touched on previously, most Thai people have very strong relationships with their family - especially close relatives such as parents and grandparents. If your partner does fit into that category, then you should realise that she will always maintain close ties with her family. Don't try to make her choose between her family and yourself, as you may find yourself coming out as the loser.
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How to get married in Thailand as a foreigner
August 25, 2023 - Reading time: 12 minutes
Updated: August 20, 2024
The process of getting married in Thailand as a foreigner is relatively straightforward, provided you have conducted some research in order to understand the necessary steps. While some may choose to hire an agency to help with the process of running around and collecting the necessary documents, getting married in Thailand can be done yourself, 'DIY' style and without the need for paid help.
So, how is it possible to get married in Thailand as a foreigner? We will explore the necessary steps in this article.
1. Obtain an 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document
In order to get married in Thailand, foreigners require an 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document also known as 'an affirmation of martial status'; which is a document stating that you are currently unmarried in your home country, and are therefore free to get married in Thailand. This document can usually be obtained from a local registry office in your home country, or through your country's embassy in Thailand.
The process of obtaining a 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document will vary depending on which country you come from, and the requirements of your embassy (if you intend to obtain the certificate locally in Thailand). Check your embassy's website for information on their requirements and the process.
The 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' is not usually free, with most embassies charging around 3,500 THB for the service. The British embassy, for example, currently charges 2,860 THB.
Note: You will also require a certified copy of your passport from your embassy, which will also need to be translated into Thai.
2. Have your documents translated
Once a 'Affirmation of Freedom to Marry' document has been obtained from your embassy, it will need to be translated into Thai by a reputable translation company, along with the certified copy of your passport.
If you obtained your freedom to marry certificate in Bangkok, then most embassies tend to be in the Wireless Road area; and you can find translation shops within walking distance. There are translation shops inside Mahatun Plaza which is near by, for example.
OR you could choose to have your documents translated at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs instead, however this option might be more costly.
3. Authenticate your translations
Once your freedom to marry document and your certified passport copy have been translated, they will then need to be authenticated by the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
Department of Consular Affairs
The Legalisation Division
123 Chaeng Wattana Road, Laksi District, Bangkok 10210
Phone: 02 575 1056 59, 02 981 7171
Once you're at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, take the escalator up to the third floor, turn right and walk up the stairs. Then go to the desk straight in-front of you and hand in your affirmation to marry document, its translation, along with your passport copy and passport translation.
Be aware that the staff take a lunch break at 12PM and return at 13:00. You will need to collect a ticket with a queue number and wait for your number to be called. If you arrive shortly before lunch then you might need to return after lunch at 13:00.
4. Register your marriage
Once you have your authenticated 'affirmation of freedom to marry' document along with a translated copy of your passport, you will then be ready to collect the other necessary documents and register your marriage at a district office.
In order to register a marriage, the following documents will typically be required:
- Your passport/visa with two copies of each
- Your fiancee's ID card (for Thai citizens) with two copies
- The Letter of Affirmation of Freedom to Marry (the original plus the translation with copies of both)
- The translation of your passport stamped by the MFA
- Your fiancee's Tabien Baan (house book) (for Thai citizens) along with two copies
- Two witnesses will be required. Rules can vary depending on which district office you use - so call your local district office and ask about their requirements. It could be helpful to bring a couple of Thai friends with you, or family members in some cases. If you decided to hire an agent then your agent might act as your witness instead.
5. Translating a copy of your marriage certificate
Once your marriage is complete, you will typically be issued with two marriage certificates. The certificates themselves are written in Thai script and feature a border of roses.
If you are a foreigner, then you might find it useful to obtain a certified translation of your marriage certificate in your country's native language. The translated certificate might come in handy should your partner decide to apply for a Western visa in the future, or, if you have a child with your partner then a translated marriage certificate may help in order to apply for your child's first passport.
Of course, if you just intend to use the marriage certificate for official purposes within Thailand (such as applying for a Thai marriage visa), then just the Thai language certificate itself should suffice.
Where can I get married in Thailand?
You will need to register your marriage at the nearest available district office. In Bangkok, you can choose between the district offices in Lak Si, Bangrak or Huay Kwang. These offices may require appointments to be made in advance, it is therefore advisable to call them beforehand in order to check this and their requirements/waiting times. Different district offices may also have different requirements regarding witnesses; getting in touch with your office of choice directly is your best bet when it comes to finding the most up-to-date info.
List of district offices in Bangkok
Lak Si District Office
999 Chang Watthana 10 Alley, Thung Song Hong, Lak Si, Bangkok 10210
Phone: 02 982 2081
Bang Rak District Office
5 Naret Rd, Si Phraya, Bang Rak, Bangkok 10500
Phone: 02 236 1395
Huai Khwang District Office
2 Pracha Uthit Rd, Huai Khwang, Bangkok 10310
Phone: 02 277 9100
If your partner is from a rural area or a small town, then you might find there to be shorter waiting times at the district office in their hometown, rather than in a city such as Bangkok... It would be a good idea to call your local district office and check with them regarding the waiting times and their requirements before deciding how to proceed.
Is it possible to get married in Thailand in one day?
Yes, it certainly could be possible to complete this process and get married in one day; however, whether or not this will be possible will depend on how busy the relevant offices are and how soon they are able to process you.
Are background checks necessary before getting married in Thailand?
A news article published in 2018 (source) claims that foreigners seeking to marry Thais may now be subject to criminal background screening. However, whether or not you will be subject to a background check may vary depending on your local district office - we suggest contacting your local district office for up to date information on their requirements.
While it is not compulsory, private investigators in Thailand can help to perform a premarital background check on your partner. We can check a number of different factors relating to your partner, which can help allow you to make an informed decision before taking the step of getting married. Premarital background checks have the potential to help mitigate the risk of financial loss through romance scams; they can also allow you to fully understand your partner's history and life before taking the step of getting married to them.
If you are interested in running a premarital background check on your partner, then free to get in touch with us for a free quote.
What is a Thai village wedding?
A 'Thai village wedding' is a traditional Thai wedding ceremony which takes place in towns or villages of Thailand. The event is taken seriously and usually attended by friends, family, along with local monks and village elders. The bride and groom dress in traditional Thai attire, with the ceremony lasting all day and usually including a large feast for all attendees.
While some people in Thailand may choose to mark their relationship with a village wedding, the wedding ceremony itself does not create a legally binding marriage unless it is followed up with a visit to the local district office in order to register the marriage.
If you are intending for your partner to obtain a Western visa in future, then you may need to register your marriage in a district office rather than purely holding a 'village wedding' ceremony.
Are pre-matrimonial background checks common in Thailand?
As a leading detective agency based in Thailand, we find that more and more of our clients are choosing to perform premarital background checks on their partners before taking the step of getting married. Clients that have previously fallen victim to infidelity or romance scams tend to be especially diligent in future relationships; with many seeking peace of mind that everything is fully above board and that their partner is truly being honest with them about their circumstances.
With money and finances an increasing part of most marriages, performing checks on your partner can also help to safeguard any future investments that you might make during your relationship.
We are able to check a number of different factors relating to your partner in order to check their history. Romantic background checks can be used whether or not you are currently considering marriage.
Are prenuptial agreements necessary in Thailand?
Prenuptial agreements are not required, however they may be considered in order to safeguard assets during a potential breakdown of the marriage in future. Depending on your country of origin, it could be necessary to have two prenups in place for both your home country and Thailand. Prenups are not a 'be all and end all' solution to all cases, and it is important to understand their potential limitations if you decide to go down the path of asking your partner to sign one prior to marriage.
In Thailand, the default rule is that your partner could be entitled to 50% of anything which you acquired after getting married - assets which you already had prior to getting married are usually exempt.
If you need information on prenuptial agreements, or on any other matter, then it would be highly advisable to consult with a lawyer that specialises in the relevant field of law. The information provided on this website serves as a rough guide for general informational purposes and does not constitute legal advice.
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Is it legal to hire a private investigator in Thailand?
July 23, 2023 - Reading time: 8 minutes
Updated: June 6, 2024
As leading private detectives based in Thailand, we are frequently instructed by clients that have never previously hired a private detective before; and as such, we are frequently asked questions such as whether or not investigative services are in fact legal.
Yes, it is legal to hire a private investigator in Thailand. However, it is always advisable to use a well established and reputable firm in order to ensure high quality results. The detective agency should be a registered Thai company, with all fees paid into accounts held by that company. Accreditations and past experience should also be considered when choosing a detective agency.
Of course, it is possible to hire a private investigator in another country to carry out investigations within Thailand; in this situation the case will typically be outsourced to a local firm based in Thailand, with middle man fees added by the agency which manages the case.
We frequently provide updates to our clients during investigations in real time, and although we also work alongside other detective agencies around the world; we find it easier to communicate directly with our clients, rather than communicating through an intermediary based in the client's home country.
We offer free quotes for all work; if you require the services of a private detective based in Thailand then feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for help and advice.
What can private investigators in Thailand do?
Private investigators typically offer a number of different services for either private or corporate clients; our agency provides services to both sectors.
Personal surveillance service
Personal surveillance can be used in a number of different cases to check the lifestyle/activities of a subject. Surveillance is often used during infidelity investigations, for example, and is the most common method which can be used to catch acts of infidelity on camera.
Surveillance is often deployed in areas of Thailand such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, Chiang Mai; however we can also deploy surveillance teams in all areas of Thailand, subject to reimbursement for travel time and costs.
If you are interested in our surveillance service and would like a free quote, then please feel free to get in touch with us - we will need to know the locations of the case and any relevant details in order to understand your needs and requirements, please include this information when getting in touch with us.
Background check services
Due to the growing problem of romance scams, premarital background checks are an increasingly common method to check and verify facts relating to a Thai girlfriend or boyfriend before taking the step to get married or further progress a romance.
Background checks can also be used by employers to check candidates as part of preemployment background screening.
Checks can be used to verify any number of different factors relating to an individual; from basic information such as their date of birth or gender, to other checks such as employment history, marriage/divorce history, criminal record checks, family checks, and more.
We offer standard background check packages and can also offer customised packages depending on the needs and requirements of our client. Please feel free to contact us and tell us about your case to learn more about our background check service. We offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.
Missing people investigations
Searching for missing people can prove to be some of the most challenging and most rewarding cases that are handled by us.
In cases such as these, everything will depend on the information that our client is able to provide us with... Are there any locations which could be visited in order to conduct interviews with a view to locating the subject? Is any information available on the subject's current or past locations? What is the subject's nationality? Why specifically are you trying to get hold of them? For missing people investigations we will need as much background information as possible in order to assess the situation and provide a quote.
Corporate investigations
We have years of experience in performing corporate investigations and due diligence within Thailand. Investigations on behalf of corporate clients often involve the acquisition and dissection of data which can be used to help them to make informed decisions, which will in turn allow them to save both time and money.
Shrewd businessperson understand that conducting due diligence in the form of relevant checks can help to mitigate their risk of financial loss... Investigations of this nature can take many different paths, depending on the circumstances and the needs/requirements of our client.
What can't private investigators do?
Phone hacking
"Can you hack into a phone? Can you hack into a social media account?" - Answer: No; absolutely not. We do not offer any form of hacking services as this would be against the law.
In some cases we are able to utilise publicly available data in order to collect information on any certain individual... For example, in some cases we can use facial recognition checks to discover instances of a subject's face on the internet - we have previously found adult videos featuring subjects, as well as dating profiles and similar material. As these checks involve the acquisition of data which is already available in the public domain, it is effectively considered 'fair game' for a private investigator. 'Hacking' into private data on the other hand is not allowed under any circumstances.
Unethical surveillance practices
"Can you break into a hotel room and install a hidden camera so that you can record my partner cheating?" - Answer: No; absolutely not. Unauthorised surveillance of this nature is not allowed.
Requests for intrusive surveillance of this nature are all too common... Surveillance services which take place outside of a Hollywood movie set is always confined by rules, as well as numerous subjective elements which are often outside the control of surveillance agents. While it may be possible to gather evidence that your partner is cheating on you, the use of hidden cameras in this way is simply unacceptable.
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