Signs That She is Not a Good Thai Girl

March 27, 2020 - Reading time: 8 minutes
Updated: May 29, 2025

There’s no single guide or checklist that can definitively tell you whether someone is a “good girl” or not — all people are different and every situation is unique. However, there are certain warning signs and red flags you can look for in your Thai girlfriend that might suggest she’s not exactly the wholesome partner you hope she is. We’ll explore some of those red flags in this article.

1. She works in a bar

If your Thai girlfriend works in a bar (or has done in the past), this is the biggest possible red flag that she might not be a good girl. Most of the bar girls that we investigate are found to be cheating on their partners. No matter what she tells you — or how convinced you are that she’s different — if she’s involved in the bar scene, the chances of her being faithful are low. Women in this line of work often become skilled at lying, spinning convincing stories that keep their boyfriends in the dark while they continue seeing other men. We specialise in exposing these lies and uncovering the truth.

2. She smokes cigarettes

Roughly 2% of Thai women smoke. Outside the adult entertainment industry, it’s not very common and is generally frowned upon in Thai culture. If your girlfriend smokes regularly, it might be an indicator that she’s more likely connected to the nightlife or sex industry.

3. She has tattoos

While Western influence is gradually shifting opinions on tattoos in Thailand, visible tattoos on women are still often associated with the sex industry. Try finding a lady working a respectable office job in Bangkok with visible ink — you might struggle. Tattoos aren’t a guarantee of anything, but they’re definitely something to factor into your judgment.

4. She has two (or more) Facebook profiles

Why would anyone need multiple Facebook profiles, phone numbers or even devices? We’ve investigated countless cases where women involved in romance scams maintain more than one Facebook page. For instance, “Pin” has one account filled with photos of her and her European boyfriend — she’s “in a relationship” with him. Her other profile? It’s all smiles with her American boyfriend. Same setup, different man.

Often one account is for family and friends, the other is used to show off a fake romantic life to a foreign partner. It’s a calculated way of hiding multiple relationships — and a sign she might not take yours seriously.

5. She is always talking about money

Wages in Thailand are typically lower than in Western countries. So, yes — if you’re in a serious relationship, helping her financially might be part of the equation. But there’s a line between offering help and being used. A genuine Thai girlfriend might occasionally need help with bills or family expenses. But if she’s constantly bringing up money, it’s worth asking: does she care about you or just your wallet?

6. She says that all Thai men are bad

If she makes sweeping claims like “all Thai men are bad”, take a moment to ask why she feels that way. The reality is, plenty of Thai men are kind, responsible, and loyal. If she’s been rejected or mistreated by local men, it might say more about her than about them.

7. Her English is too good

Most Thai people speak limited English unless they’ve either gone through university or spent time regularly interacting with foreigners. So if your girlfriend’s English is unusually fluent, it’s worth considering how she learned it. A university education is usually a good sign — if it’s genuine. On the other hand, many women pick up fluent English from working in bars and chatting with foreign customers over years of nightlife experience.

8. She is constantly drinking alcohol

Moderate drinking for special occasions is normal. But if she’s frequently getting drunk, hitting clubs every other night, or seems constantly involved in the party scene — that’s not typical behaviour for most Thai women, especially those with stable careers or traditional values. Heavy drinking habits can be a big red flag.

9. She has no visible means of income

We regularly hear from men who say, “My girlfriend doesn’t work, but she’s out at clubs all the time with her friends.” This is usually a clear sign that she’s freelancing — meeting men in nightlife areas and living off whatever support she gets. Often these women have multiple men sending them money and use different tactics to keep the cash flowing without raising suspicions. Some are so skilled they don’t even ask for money outright — they wait until the boyfriend offers.

“None of these points apply to my girlfriend! She’s a good girl!”

Maybe. But remember: professional scammers know exactly which red flags foreigners are looking out for. Many will deliberately avoid doing or saying things that might trigger alarm bells. They might take you to temples, introduce you to their family, or avoid asking for money for months just to build trust. These women can be incredibly convincing — and that’s why we exist. If you have doubts, a proper investigation is the only way to be sure.

Check your Thai girlfriend

We offer discreet and professional services to help you verify your Thai girlfriend’s background. From background checks and personal surveillance to our unique decoy service, we have the tools to help you discover the truth — whether she’s really a “good girl” or not.

Learn more about Thai lady investigations.

Related articles

• Why You Should Run a Background Check on Your Thai Girlfriend 
• Can You Really Trust Your Thai Girlfriend? Warning Signs to Know 
• The Reality of Dating a Thai Bar Girl: What You Need to Know