Checking Bar Girls in Thailand: Truth Behind Relationships
September 27, 2024 - Reading time: 9 minutes
Updated October 8, 2024
In the vibrant nightlife of Bangkok’s red-light districts, relationships between tourists and bar girls are common. Many visitors believe they’ve found someone special, but the reality is often far more complex. At Bangkok Private Investigators, we frequently receive requests to investigate women working in bars, particularly in areas like Soi Cowboy, Nana Plaza, Patong, Pattaya, etcetera. In this case study, we detail an investigation where a client wanted to know the truth about a bar girl he believed was different from the rest. Unfortunately, our investigation revealed a painful but common story.
The Client's Story: Love Found in Soi Cowboy
Our client, a man from Europe, had recently visited Bangkok on holiday. Like many before him, he ventured into Soi Cowboy, one of Bangkok’s most famous red-light districts, and met a lady working at a beer bar. She was charming, attentive, and appeared to care for him in a way that made him feel special. They spent a significant amount of time together during his stay, and by the end of the holiday, he believed that he had found true love.
Before returning to his home country, the woman reassured him that she was different from other bar girls. While she admitted she would continue working at the bar, she promised she would only earn money through drinks, tips, and her salary, never by leaving the bar with customers. She told him she would call every night after work to prove that she had returned to her room alone, and that her love for him was genuine. Despite his belief in her, the client still had doubts. He wanted reassurance that her promises were real.
The Honeytrap Investigation: Initial Test of Her Loyalty
Our client initially requested that we conduct a decoy investigation, also known as a honeytrap. This method involves sending an undercover investigator to pose as a regular customer in the bar to see if the woman would break her promise and agree to leave with a new client.
One of our agents entered the bar, posing as a tourist looking for company. He approached the woman, introduced himself, and casually asked if she would be willing to leave the bar with him. Surprisingly, she refused. She was polite but declined, explaining that she was busy and uninterested in leaving with anyone. Our agent reported this back to the client, and for a moment, it seemed she might indeed be telling the truth. However, the client’s intuition pushed him to request further investigation.
Surveillance: The Truth Uncovered
Following the decoy investigation, the client requested surveillance to dig deeper into the woman’s activities and understand why she had refused our decoy agent. Our team began discreet surveillance of the woman to monitor her movements after she finished work at the bar.
On the first night of surveillance, we observed the woman at the bar, interacting with customers as usual. Shortly after our decoy agent left the premises, a foreign man, smartly dressed and around 40 years old, entered the bar. He sat with the woman, bought her drinks, and they spent a considerable amount of time together. Around midnight, they both left the bar and headed to an upscale hotel in Sathorn, a popular area for high-end accommodation in Bangkok.
Our investigator discreetly followed the pair, watching as they entered the man’s hotel room. The woman remained in the room until 1:30 a.m., at which point she left, returned to her own residence, and immediately made a phone call to our client. During the call, she told him she was “home alone” and too tired to talk for long. In reality, she had just left another man’s hotel room moments earlier.
The Same Pattern Repeats
The next evening, the same man returned to the bar. Once again, the woman spent hours drinking with him before they both left together and returned to his hotel. As before, she left his room around 1:30 a.m. to make her scheduled call to our client, telling him the same story—she was tired, alone, and missing him. After the call, she changed clothes and met the man again. They went out for a late meal together before she finally returned to her own room the following morning.
Background Check: Multiple Relationships and a Dating Profile
The client was devastated by the findings of our surveillance, but we wanted to be thorough. As part of our standard investigation process, we conducted a background check on the woman to gather more information. Through this, we uncovered multiple social media accounts where she appeared to be in relationships with several men, all of whom seemed to believe that they were the only ones in her life. Each man thought she was “special” and “different,” much like our client had.
Additionally, we found that she was active on a dating website, continuing to seek out new relationships even while professing loyalty to our client. It became clear that the woman was using her charm and promises to maintain multiple relationships, each man convinced of her sincerity.
The Reality of Relationships with Bar Girls in Thailand
Sadly, this type of situation is not uncommon in Thailand’s red-light districts. The nature of work in beer bars and go-go bars often encourages bar girls to juggle multiple relationships for financial security. While some may genuinely care for their foreign partners, the reality is that many rely on drinks, tips, and clients to maintain their livelihoods. The line between professional and personal relationships becomes blurred, and it is easy for foreigners to become emotionally entangled in these complex dynamics.
Based on our experience, the likelihood of infidelity in relationships with bar girls is very high, even if you believe she is different. The pressures of the job, financial incentives, and opportunities presented in places like Soi Cowboy make it difficult for many women to remain faithful to one man.
Our Services: How We Can Help You
At Bangkok Private Investigators, we are often asked to investigate relationships involving women who work in bars across Thailand. Whether you want to verify your girlfriend’s loyalty or uncover the truth about her background, we offer comprehensive investigation services, including:
- Surveillance to monitor her movements and interactions.
- Decoy or honeytrap investigations to test her loyalty.
- Background checks to discover hidden relationships or online activity.
We have a nationwide network of undercover agents, allowing us to check bar girls in Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, and beyond. If your girlfriend works at a bar in Thailand and you have doubts about her honesty, we can provide you with the answers you need. Our work is discreet, and all contact with us is strictly private and confidential.
Contact Us for a Free Quote
If you’re concerned about your relationship with a bar girl in Thailand, don’t hesitate to get in touch with us. We offer free, no-obligation quotes for all our services. Let us help you uncover the truth and provide you with the peace of mind you deserve. Contact us today for more information.
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