Signs that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you

April 15, 2021 - Reading time: 10 minutes

If you are being cheated on, then discovering that this is the case can prove to be very difficult in many cases, and even more so if you are not living in the same country as your partner. If your partner is running a Thai girlfriend scam then the odds of catching her out will be even lower, as professional romance scammers are excellent at concealing their true activities.

However, there are some small signs which you can look for that might indicate your partner is being unfaithful. We have put together the following signs that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you.

1. Her social media accounts are filled with foreign guys

If your Thai girlfriend's social media accounts are filled with foreign guys, this is a strong indication that she might be cheating on you. If her photos are receiving many likes and comments from other men, this shows that other guys are interested in her and perhaps have more involvement with her than you might think.

A normal Thai lady will typically not have many foreign men as friends on her social media accounts – if your Thai girlfriend does, then you should question why that is. Is she meeting with a lot of foreign men at work? Did you meet her through online dating and if so, is she still using online dating to find more guys?

2. She has more than one Facebook account

In order for the Thai girlfriend scam to work, ladies will often create multiple different Facebook accounts. This allows them to have one account for close family members, and other accounts for foreign boyfriends. Ladies that are well versed in the Thai girlfriend scam will often use separate Facebook accounts for each boyfriend; doing this allows each boyfriend to be listed as "in a relationship" with her, and prevents them from seeing comments left by each other. 

Of course, if your Thai girlfriend does have multiple accounts, then you might not know this is the case, as the lady will aim to keep them hidden from you. A common trick for ladies with multiple Facebook accounts is to block her boyfriend on all her other hidden accounts which are used for other boyfriends. Blocking the man's account means that all of her secret profiles will remain hidden to him.

3. She doesn't answer the phone when you call

If your girlfriend doesn't answer the phone when you call her, this could be an indication that she is around another man and doesn't want him to hear your conversation with her. If she immediately sends you a message after you have tried to call her, or calls you back for a very brief conversation, these could also act as warning signs that your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you.

Ladies that are spending time with other guys have been known to make phone calls from the balcony or bathroom of their lover's hotel room. Other times they might make an excuse to visit the nearest convenience store and make a call to their overseas boyfriend at the same time.

4. She is always out drinking

Drinking is accepted in Thai culture, but in moderation. If your girlfriend is out drinking with friends, at clubs and bars on a regular basis, this is a strong indication that she might be cheating on you.

Nightclub with green disco lights

In areas such as Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket, many women freelance at bars and clubs… That is to say that they visit clubs (or bars) in the evening with the goal of meeting customers there. If your girlfriend is regularly drinking in bars and clubs, ask yourself why that is.

5. Her relationship status is "single" on social media

Is your Thai girlfriend's relationship status set to "single" on social media despite her being in a relationship with you? Does she make excuses when you ask her to set her status to "in a relationship"? Perhaps she changes her Facebook account before changing her relationship status… These are all red flags that your girlfriend is wanting to conceal your relationship and appear available to other men.

If a Thai lady is truly committed to one partner, then she should have no issues with changing her relationship status to "in a relationship with Your Name", and sharing photos of her boyfriend throughout her social media accounts.

If a Thai lady is practicing point number 2, then this point might be null and void.

6. She doesn't have a regular job

How does your Thai girlfriend support herself, and what type of lifestyle is she living? If your Thai girlfriend is not working a regular job, then where does her money come from? 

Not working in a regular, stable job could act as a warning sign that she might be earning money through her relationships, or in the red-light areas.

Over the years we have seen many cases where ladies were falsely claiming to have regular jobs in cafés, restaurants, coffee shops, banks, real estate, the list goes on. When we have been asked to step in and check ladys' occupations, it often transpires that they are not working where they claim to be at all. Women that decide to lie about their jobs will often make their stories convincing by taking photos in the alleged workplace, or posing for photos wearing borrowed work uniform in many cases. 

7. She constantly asks you for money

If your Thai girlfriend is constantly coming up with excuses to ask you for money, then perhaps she views you as more of an ATM machine than as a boyfriend.

Of course, if your Thai girlfriend does not earn much money, then you might decide to support her with an allowance or by sending regular gifts… If this is happening in your case, then you should question whether her primary motivation for your relationship is money. If it is then the odds that she will cheat on you are significantly higher.

8. She hides her phone while you are together

Is your girlfriend very guarded around her phone? Does she hide her phone screen when you are together and not let you borrow her device? This should act as a warning sign that she might be speaking with other men and doesn't want you to catch on.

Think about it for a moment, if a lady has nothing to hide, then why would she closely guard her phone screen? There is no real excuse for this, and if she is speaking to her friends in the Thai language then you probably will not be able to understand her messages anyway.

If your girlfriend often leaves you to make phone calls in private whilst you are together then this is another warning sign. After all, if you don't speak Thai then you will not be able to understand her conversations – unless she is speaking in English with other men.

9. She is living above her means

What type of lifestyle does your girlfriend lead and how much money does she earn? Does she often post photos of expensive meals on Instagram? Is her body adorned with gold jewellery? Is she living in a high-end condominium or house? How much is she paying in rent?

These are the types of question that you should ask yourself in order to gauge whether the lady might be living above her means. If she is living above her means, then perhaps she has other forms of income which you don't know about – this might include other relationships.

10. She won't say "I love you" on the phone

If your girlfriend won't say the words "I love you" while on the phone, then you should question why that is. After all, these words will only be understood by another English speaker, as only 20-30% of Thai people are able to speak English, who is she worried about overhearing the conversation? Is she embarrassed to say that she loves you, or worried that someone might overhear her? Both options should form a cause for concern.

11. She has tattoos and smokes cigarettes

If your Thai girlfriend has tattoos and smokes cigarettes, these are definite signs that she might be involved in the Thai nightlife scene, and will be more likely to cheat on you.

Asian woman smoking a cigarette

Most women in Thailand do not smoke cigarettes, and the ones that do tend to be found in beer bars, karaoke bars, and other seedy venues. While attitudes towards tattoos in Thailand are slowly shifting, they can act as another signal that your girlfriend might have worked in the Thai nightlife or "adult entertainment" scene.

Check your Thai girlfriend

If you are having concerns that your Thai girlfriend might be cheating on you, then we can help to investigate her lifestyle and let you know whether or not this is the case. We offer free, confidential quotes for all work. Please feel free to get in touch with one of our experienced team members for help and advice. In order for us to assess your situation and provide a quote, we will need to know which area in Thailand your girlfriend lives, whether she is employed, and any other background information that could help us to understand your situation.


Is my Thai girlfriend cheating on me?

November 23, 2020 - Reading time: 12 minutes

Is my Thai girlfriend cheating on me? If you are reading this blog post then it's safe to assume there is already some doubt in your mind.

Thai lady leaning on a tree

Thai women as a whole generally remain loyal to their partners and acts of infidelity are typically frowned on in Thai society. However, most women in Thailand cannot speak English and only become romantically involved with Thai men. When it comes to relationships between Thai women and foreign men, lines can become blurred and what is perceived as acceptable behaviour can vary, especially when there are financial incentives at play.

A Thai lady that is married to a Thai man might have little to gain by cheating on him with other Thai men. However, a lady that is living in somewhere such as Bangkok, Pattaya or Phuket, has to opportunity to regularly meet foreign men, and with that comes the potential to gain vast amounts of money through forming multiple relationships with them. Make no mistake about it, the Thai girlfriend scam, when performed correctly, can allow a lady to earn massive amounts of money.

The incentive of making money is often enough for a lady to bend her morals, especially if she comes from an impoverished family that might be struggling with money. If a lady can help to feed her family and provide them with a better quality of life through lying to her boyfriend, or by having multiple boyfriends, then the needs of her family will almost always come before that of a foreign boyfriend.

Infidelity in Thailand statistics

Infographic for cheating partner statistics in Thailand

According to a recent study, cheating is prevalent in Thailand, with 56% of married Thais admitting to having an affair.

Some Thai men practice polygamy, with what they describe as "mia noys". "Mia noy" roughly translates to "minor wife" – that is, another wife in addition to his main partner. This type of polygamy has existed in Thailand for hundreds of years and has typically been more prevalent among wealthy Thais – generally the wealthier a man is, the more wives he might have.

With infidelity running deep in Thai culture – can you trust your Thai girlfriend not to cheat on you?

If you suspect that your Thai girl is cheating on you, then we think there is something to be said for trusting your instincts. However, it’s important to recognize the difference between a lady having an affair, and a lady that is involved with the Thai girlfriend scam.

As a foreigner, you may find yourself becoming the target of a Thai girlfriend scam, and we think it's important to understand how scams can work in order to try and avoid them yourself.

The Thai girlfriend scam

There is a subset of women in Thailand who aim to involve themselves with multiple different foreign men, all of whom will believe that they are the lady's only boyfriend. By forming multiple relationships with several foreigners, some ladies are able to earn themselves vast amounts of money.

With many foreigners sending an allowance to their Thai girlfriends every month, it's easy to see how the perpetrators of romance scams are able to earn sizeable incomes by receiving money from their partners. If the scam continues over many years, then the men will typically become very trusting of their Thai girlfriend - some guys will even buy houses or cars for their Thai girlfriends before realizing they have been played. 

We have seen many cases of Thai girlfriend scams in different forms over a number of years, and we don't foresee the flow slowing down or stopping anytime soon. 

While the Thai girlfriend scam has typically been popular among Thai bar girls (and still is), we have seen a growing number of ladies forming multiple relationships with foreign men using dating apps and websites. Communicating over the internet can help the lady to rapidly form relationships with different men and gain their trust. It is also easy for a Thai lady to portray a respectable image of herself to men that she has met through the internet. 

Women that practice this scam usually do so over a number of years, which allows them to hone their skills and they often become experts at manipulating their foreign boyfriends. Some women will even share tips between themselves on the best tactics, and write messages for each other's boyfriends in the English language. This type of scam, while deplorable on a moral level, is a fine art which when pulled off correctly can offer huge rewards and live changing sums of money for the ladies responsible. 

If you are involved with a Thai lady that makes her living through scamming her foreign boyfriends, then figuring out you are being lied to can prove to be extremely difficult, or impossible in many cases.

Scammers become excellent liars and know exactly the things to say to put your mind at ease. They build a toolbox filled with convincing excuses to explain away their activity. They learn the lies which work and the ones which don't. They learn to read their boyfriends, and only to ask for money when each boyfriend seems comfortable (this will not be early on in the relationship in most cases). Scammers learn how to get the most from each boyfriend.

Victims of the Thai girlfriend scam will think that their girlfriend is "different" and that it could never happen to them. Lead on by a desire for romance, most victims to romance scams will believe anything their Thai girlfriend tells them… It can typically take several years for these men to realize that they have fallen victim to a scam, others may never realize the truth.

Often, if a lady has a sponsor that is taking care of her financial needs, she will seek out younger men to spend time with… If the lady is already receiving an allowance every month, then she won't need to ask for help from her young boyfriends, and will enjoy the romance of a younger man whilst being supported by older ones.

In order to catch a professional scammer, it often takes a professional investigator.

We have caught literally thousands of cheating Thai women over the years… We can help to investigate your Thai girlfriend and find out whether or not she is telling the truth or being faithful to you. Many of our clients would never have got to the truth of their relationship without engaging our services, and our clients are usually glad to uncover the truth.

Understanding your Thai girlfriend 

We feel that it's important to understand your Thai girlfriend's circumstances, her background, history, and her family's circumstances. Due to the Thai concept of 'saving face', Thai ladies tend to be reluctant when it comes to sharing information about their families and personal lives early on in a relationship.

Many ladies that seek out relationships with foreigners come from poor farming villages, their families are often impoverished and struggling with debt. However, don't expect your girlfriend to be upfront and honest about this. In Thai culture, exposing your vulnerabilities can be seen as losing face, which is a fate worse than death for many Thais. In addition to this, Thai ladies are not stupid and fully understand that explaining they are in debt, or from a very poor family, will not be taken well by a lot of men... Some guys might simply walk away from a relationship if they realize that their Thai girlfriend is very poor.

Why does this matter? Well, if your Thai girlfriend is in dire need of money to support her family, repay loans, or for any other reason, then she might be more likely to try and earn extra cash through working in the sex industry or through forming romantic relationships with multiple foreign men as part of a Thai girlfriend scam.

Of course, your girlfriend will not want to share information with you that is likely to put you off her or damage your relationship… Finding out that your partner is in a huge amount of debt, or that her family home is a wooden shack on the verge of collapse, for example, will be perceived as discouraging to most foreign men.

Earning extra cash through the sex industry is easier than you might think. If your girlfriend is living in a city such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, or Chiang Mai, then it's easy for her to freelance at a nightclub or bar. Freelancing is simply the act of meeting with men for sex, whilst having no commitments to a particular establishment. Many women that work 'normal' jobs during the daytime will freelance in the evenings to have fun and earn extra cash. 

Other women will use dating apps to seek out foreign men – some women can have 5 or 6+ boyfriends at the same time. While this might seem farfetched to some, attractive Thai women have no trouble finding interested men using the internet, and forming romantic bonds with them is not difficult to a lady practiced in romance scams. 

Is your Thai girlfriend working in a bar? 

It's important to realize that bars in Thailand are more like brothels which serve alcohol rather than conventional beer bars that you might find in a Western country. 

Bar girl investigations

Learn more about bar girl investigations.

The goal for women working in Thai bars is to leave their bar with customers as often as possible. The customer will be required to pay a fee to the bar for taking their lady, known as a "bar fine". The lady will usually receive a percentage of the bar fine, as well as earning commission on drinks that are purchased for her. Of course, in addition to paying a bar fine, the customer will need to make a payment directly to the lady for her time.

Newcomers to Thailand often find themselves forming relationships with bar girls. Most often the lady will continue to leave the bar with customers while denying this fact to her boyfriend, or boyfriends. 

If your girlfriend is working at a bar in Thailand then the odds that she will be cheating on you whilst you are out of the country are substantially higher. In fact, most of the Thai bar girls investigated by us are found to be cheating on their partners (see our blog post: Thai girlfriend statistics).

Bar girls often earn a living through lying to their boyfriends and continuing to leave their bar with customers while their boyfriends are out of the country… Most men fall for the bar girl scam hook line and sinker.

If your girlfriend is working a bar in Thailand then we can help to check her activities while you are not around, for many guys that are involved with bar girls this is the only way to discover the truth about their partners. If your girlfriend is working at a Thai bar, then choosing to hire a private investigator can save you huge amounts of time, money and heartache.

Check your Thai girlfriend

If you're wondering whether your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you then we can help. We offer various methods that can be used to investigate Thai ladies, such as our background check service, personal surveillance, decoy service, and more. Please feel free to get in touch with us explaining your situation and we will endeavour to offer the best and most cost-effective solution in your case; we offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.


Private investigators in Pattaya

November 18, 2020 - Reading time: 4 minutes

Pattaya investigations

Do you require the services of a private investigator in Pattaya? Our Pattaya based detectives can help with a wide range of different issues including Thai lady investigations, bar girl investigations, foreign men investigations, background checks, corporate due diligence, missing people, and much more.

We cover all areas of Pattaya, Jomtien, and Chon Buri. We offer free quotes for all work, please feel free to reach out to us and see how we are able to help in your case. Please include any relevant details such as the location you need us to work so that we are able to understand your situation and provide a quote.

Hiring a private investigator in Pattaya

Pattaya city is known the world over for its wild nightlife scene. The town has an estimated 30,000 prostitutes actively working in beer bars, a go-go bars, massage parlours, night clubs, and many other places. With working girls in all areas of the city, it is no wonder that Pattaya is often described as “sin city”. We often investigate Thai women that are living in Pattaya in order to check whether they are being faithful while their partners are living overseas.

However, checking on Thai ladies is far from the full scope of work carried out by us, and we handle an equal amount of cases involving foreign men that are visiting Pattaya and visiting red light areas while their partners remain in their home countries. We can also help with corporate due diligence investigations, missing people cases, and more.

Contact us

We offer free, no pressure quotes for all work. Please feel free to contact one of our experienced team members and we will get back to you as soon as possible. 

Investigations agency in Chon Buri

Both Pattaya and Jomtien are located in the Chon Buri province, which is on Thailand’s eastern seaboard and approximately 80 kilometres from Thailand’s capital of Bangkok. Chon Buri is a popular destination for overseas holidaymakers and domestic tourists alike. We have extensive experience conducting investigations in the Chon Buri area and our services typically extend to all areas of Chon Buri province and across Thailand.

Please let us know the exact area where you require us to work when getting in touch with us.

When you need the truth

When you need to discover the truth about a person or business, we can help to gather information which can aid you in making informed decisions. Recovering money from fraudsters can often prove extremely difficult or impossible, and we believe that prevention is always better than cure... It is better to perform checks before entering into serious commitments rather than trying to gather evidence after you have lost money or fallen victim to fraud. We have been able to save our clients vast amounts of money by advising them against business transactions which did not appear to be legitimate, or advising that they may be falling victim to a romance scam. During infidelity related investigations we can often help to save our clients time, money, and heartbreak. 

How to proceed

We are always happy to help and aim to assist our clients wherever possible. We recognize that instructing a detective agency can be a difficult decision for some of our clients, however most of our clients are glad to uncover the truth and receive evidence as confirmation of their suspicions. We offer free consultations to all prospective clients. If we are able to help in your case then we will provide you with a free, no obligation quote. It will then be a matter for yourself to decide whether you would like to proceed with opening a case.


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