Is my Thai girlfriend cheating on me?

November 23, 2020 - Reading time: 6 minutes

Thai women as a whole generally remain loyal to their partners and acts of infidelity are typically frowned upon in Thai society. However, most women in Thailand cannot speak English and only become romantically involved with Thai men. When it comes to relationships between Thai women and foreign men, lines can become blurred and what is perceived as acceptable behaviour can vary, especially if there are financial incentives at play.

A Thai lady that is married to a Thai man might have little to gain be cheating on him with other Thai men. However, a lady that is living in somewhere such as Bangkok or Pattaya, and regularly meeting foreigners, has the potential to gain vast amounts of money through forming multiple relationships. The incentive of making money is often enough for a lady to bend her morals, especially if she comes from an impoverished family that might be struggling financially. If a lady can help to feed her family and provide them with a better quality of life through lying to her boyfriend, or having multiple boyfriends, then typically the needs of her family will come before that of a foreign spouse.

Infidelity in Thailand

If you suspect that your Thai girl is cheating on you, then we think there is something to be said for trusting your instincts. However, it’s important to recognize the difference between a lady having an affair, and a lady that is involved with the Thai girlfriend scam. 

There is a subset of women in Thailand that aim to involve themselves with multiple different foreign men, all of whom believe that they are the lady’s only boyfriend. Women that practice this scam usually do so over a number of years, which allows them to hone their skills and they often become experts at manipulating their foreign boyfriends. Some women will also share tips between themselves on the best tactics, and write messages for each other’s boyfriends in the English language.

If you are involved with a Thai lady that makes her living through scamming her foreign boyfriends, then figuring out you are being lied to can prove extremely difficult, or impossible in many cases. Scammers become excellent liars and know exactly the things to say to put your mind at ease. They build a toolbox filled with convincing excuses to explain away their activity. They learn the lies which work and the ones which don’t. They learn not to ask for money early on in a relationship, and how to get the most from each boyfriend.

In order to catch a professional scammer, it often takes a professional investigator.

We have caught literally thousands of cheating Thai women over the years… We can help to investigate your Thai girlfriend and find out whether or not she is telling the truth or being faithful to you. Many of our clients would never have got to the truth of their relationship without engaging our services, and are usually glad to finally uncover the truth.

Understanding your Thai girlfriend 

We feel that it’s important to fully understand your Thai girlfriend’s circumstances, her background, and her family’s circumstances. Due to the Thai concept of ‘saving face’, Thai ladies tend to be reluctant when it comes to sharing information about their families and personal lives early on in a relationship.

Many ladies that seek out relationships with foreigners come from poor farming villages, their families are often impoverished and struggling with debt. However, don’t expect your girlfriend to be upfront and honest about this. In Thai culture, exposing your vulnerabilities can be seen as losing face, which is a fate worse than death for many Thais. In addition to this, Thai ladies are not stupid and fully understand that explaining they are in debt, or from a very poor family, will not be taken well by a lot of men... Some guys might simply walk away from a relationship if they realize that their Thai girlfriend is very poor.

Why does this matter? Well, if your Thai girlfriend is in dire need of money to support her family, repay loans, or for any other reason, then she might be more likely to try and earn extra cash through working in the sex industry or through forming romantic relationships with multiple foreign men.

Of course, your girlfriend will not want to share information with you that is likely to put you off or damage your relationship… Finding out that your partner is in a huge amount of debt, or that her family home is a wooden shack on the verge of collapse, will be perceived as discouraging to most Thai women.

Earning extra cash through the sex industry is easier than you might think. If your girlfriend is living in a city such as Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket, or Chiang Mai, then it’s easy for her to freelance at a nightclub or bar. Freelancing is simply the act of meeting with foreign men for sex, whilst having no commitments to a particular establishment. Many women that work ‘normal’ jobs during the daytime will freelance in the evenings to have fun and earn extra cash. Other women will use dating apps to seek out foreign men – some women can have 4 or 5 boyfriends at the same time.

Is your girlfriend working in a Thai bar? 

It’s important to realize that bars in Thailand are more like brothels which serve alcohol rather than conventional beer bars that you might find in a Western country. The goal of women working in Thai bars is to leave their bar with customers as often as possible.

If your girlfriend is working at a bar in Thailand then the odds that she will be cheating on you whilst you are out of the country are substantially higher. In fact, most of the Thai bar girls investigated by us are found to be cheating on their partners (see our blog post: Thai girlfriend statistics)

Bar girls often earn a living through lying to their boyfriends and continuing to leave their bar with customers while their boyfriends are out of the country… Most men fall for the bar girl scam hook line and sinker.

If your girlfriend is working a bar in Thailand then we can help to check her activities while you are not around, for many guys that are involved with bar girls this the only way to discover the truth about their partners. Choosing to hire a private investigator can save you huge amounts of time, money and heartache.

Check your Thai girlfriend

If you’re wondering whether your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you then we can help. We offer various methods that can be used to investigate Thai ladies, such as our background check service, personal surveillance, decoy service, and more. Please feel free to get in touch with us explaining your situation and we will endeavour to offer the best and most cost effective solution in your case; we offer free, no pressure quotes for all work.

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